Thrash talked about my ex (time sensitive)

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Alvafe: 1) she already deleted me because of this. And I don't usually react like that.
2) He (friend) asked again and I did tell him the truth. He takes this kinds of siat too seriously. And he has never done me any wrong so I thought why lie to him and let the real ***** get her ways as she often does.
3) I am mostly friend's with the guy, don't know her wife that well cause they lived abroad for a long time and don't see them that often. It is the wife who ran into my ex and she knew her from like 10 years ago but not that well either, but they started chatting and she invited her to their house. My ex doesn't know them very well, and doesn't know my friend at all, only from that day. Doesn't know my friends' brothers very well either, just acquaintances.

 

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Just to let you know how it went

Yesterday I talked with my ex, by text and she even called (which she rarelly or almost never does), just some texts here and there at most...

We kind of agreed and I kind of offered myself to send a message to these people saying it was not true and just a confusion of mine or stupid thing to say because I was mad/drunk. She didn't sound that angry but I noticesd she kinfd of thought I wasn't taken the matter seriously enough (which I did).

Then today first thing in the morning I check my phone, knowing that I wasn't going to find anything good there... and saw like 30 texts from her that I knew were not good news.

So I checked them out and I'm coing to copy paste them, it wasn't a coversation, just she texting and I haven't responded since but she knows I've read it.

By the way, some time ago my friend asked me again if it was true, I said yes, she talks **** about everyone but don't want to keep up with this mess I shouldn't have started frome the beginning.

Please don't judge me or think I'm such an idiot, we sometimes cannot think straight and this is the case with me and is why I posted here. I could maybe give splendid advise, but when advicing myself it gets tricky sometimes if not harmful. So this is what I founfd on my phone (please keep in mind that it will be a translation so some parts may not seem exactly the same as intended but I'll do my best and you'll definitely get the drill... btw this is just what she sent today) - maybe she talked about it with someone or just thought about it as she says in the message, but the change in her attitude from one day to another was drastic. Maybe she was just pretending to be somewhat nice in order to use me to try and fix her image and was then going to blast me anyway. Cannot be that sure of that but wouldn't surprisme me.

she says:

Her: "(my last name)
-I thought it well
-This guy is a real pooper (meaning something like a waste, or that I keep doing stupid things or blowing it/ fukng thigs up)
-I shouldn't have called you
- You ****ed up and to top it off you want to see the bad in others (in me) so you can feel good about yourself.
- get out
-Sick and mean you are, get help, because those drunken situations fick up your life like when you broke your leg (I broke my leg before meeting her and couldn't walk for almost 6 months and met her when I was just getting out of that) and worst of all, fking/annoying/bothering other people. Whatever.
-Bye
-This must be the last time for your dignity that you meddle in my life and what I do because it makes you appear as if you're someone obsessed with me that cannot get over me
-Get out your pride
-that you must have
- And don't end up looking like a loser
- Bye
- Sorry, actually if you want keep talking about me any chance you get
-You end up looking like a loser as well
-Bad
- haha
- Bye
- PS. Moreover you ask me what you can do for me to forgive you
- Because you want us to keep being friends (I know that was terrible on my part)
- What a clown (actually it sounds bad but not as bad as in English) (more like saying what a joker)
- And I say this because I heard a voice that wasn't sorry/regretful about anything (when we talked on the phone...I had to get out and was in ahurry and she caught me kind of unprepares/nervous... and I did feel she sensed that but she wasn't rude or this angry at that time)
- "everything is fine"
- "wht the fick, why do you care that much"
- So zero coherence
- And just so you don't forget, I sneaked out in secret to give you a hug when your brother died (yes she came for 15 minutes when it had just happened and called the next day... then I never saw her again, just spodadic messages...then went back to fulking his boyfriend) (As if the griegf and pain just took a week or two. and she had dumped me and got another bf that same year-last year)
- Because it borned out of me, because we had something togeter
- You are aperson with whom I shared
- And you talking shiat
- good for you
- But I understand your resentment
- Bye

Now with this you can get a better Idea of who I'm dealing with. I'm not saying I'm perfect or an example or the best man out there, and know that I sometimes blow it big time. But After reading this what do you think? What do you suggest? Should I reply anything at all? If so giver some ideas. Or just don't reply (might seem a bit coward on my part). Should I say something one last time? The fact is I understand that she's mad at me, and I know i fuked it, but this is nothing compared to what she made me go through. Anyway, I don't think I'm an evil person, just plain stupid for some things some times.

By the way, as I commented earlier, my friend asked again and since I has read all of this, I just told him it was true. I told him to not make me part of that issue anymore. However, I am considering asking him to write something in a message to him in fb, saying that none of the things I said was true, that I was just hammered and angry when I said them... Take a picture oof that and send it to her so she doesn't think I'm that much of a creep and really repent what I did. But I'm pretty sure most of you won't agree this is a good thing to do. But she is so cynic... that maybe I could be too without that much remorse.

I also know many of you must think why do you even care... I care because I ****ed up, looked like a fool (or loser) and am angry especially at myself.

So please, any opinions on this and what should I do. Any Idea on what I could answer to all of that or just keep it as it is. Should I play the message trick? My friend is loyal and may help me with that. However she will notice that she isn't welcome anyway but that could be the stubborness/jealousy of my friend. I am having a real bad time here, not only because of this but other things as well and can't keep up with my things. It is even affecting my mental and physical health. This whole situation has in someway brought me back to the times when I was a begger to get her back.

This is really important to me, sorry for the long post again. I do need help from you guys.

 

[TheWolfMan]

Dude honestly who gives a fuk, if what you told your friend about the girl is true then you have nothing to apologize for. Doesn't matter whether you were sober or drunk, you decided to put that b!tch on blast. You should have stuck to your guns and been confident in your decision. A. you told your friend the truth about her, and if she's butt hurt she can walk. Why should you give a fuk when you know that she would do the same to you without hesitation or remorse if given the opportunity?

 

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I'm not sure if she would do the same to me, also because it is not my thing to talk sh!t of other people (as is hers), especially people I don't know well... unless of course it is true and there is a reason for it. But She has done much more cruel things to me in the past and I know how she is and wanted to somehow unmask her. But I fuked up I know and it backfired on me.

Now could someone please read what she texted me and tell me if I should answer anything at all? Maybe clarify one more thing? It might seem a bit cowardly on my part if I don't and just hide and also may seem that she is right and I agree with what she says and am ok with people talking to me like that. But I am not sure. So should I anwer one more time or just leave it at that...? Suggestions please.

 

[Greasy Pig]

Don't reply, don't acknowledge, don't cover up the truth and don't be bothered with this bytch again.
Her texts tell me she's a fvcking psycho nutbag, only further evidenced by the fact she was a junkie and a whoore.
Do get rid of this rubbish from your life, do find a way to stop doing stupid shyt like this when you're drunk, do get some hobbies and do start meeting other women.
This is a sad situation that can only be solved by you cutting this cancerous cvnt out of your life.

 

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Don't reply, don't acknowledge, don't cover up the truth and don't be bothered with this bytch again.
Her texts tell me she's a fvcking psycho nutbag, only further evidenced by the fact she was a junkie and a whoore.
Do get rid of this rubbish from your life, do find a way to stop doing stupid shyt like this when you're drunk, do get some hobbies and do start meeting other women.
This is a sad situation that can only be solved by you cutting this cancerous cvnt out of your life.

Thanks for the reply. Ok, I get it. And she IS kind of psycho. I think she is Bipolar and doesn't even know the degree of it. Just to clarify, no one is a ***** or a junkie, that is what my ex said about my friend's wife (which was not true). Well my ex is indeed a whhore meaning she is an evil and selfish, self centered person, and so fkin worried about what other people think. She does have some good qualities but the bad ones far outweight the few good. Anyone who ends up with her will be miserable sooner or later for sure.

BTW, any more comments suggestions are welcome.