Thoughts on two plates

[MOTU]

Hello, I could use some wisdom my two of my plates:

P1 - as described in this thread:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=212459
I know wants some exclusivity. So my contact this week has been very minimal, mayb 1 txt to her 5. Went a full 24 without any contact.
So today she txts me:
P1: Do you have plans Friday?
Me: Yes ma'am
P1: just to clarify before I make other plans, do you have plans with someone else?
Me (after 10 min pause): Well I don't have a date, just plans with friends.
P1: Okie Dokie

I BLEW THAT, right? Full on CHUMP - the whole no date thing?

Should I have just said "yes" to question 2? How should I recover now? I know she won't be spinning long but I want to keep her going as she is the only one of the four I have on the table I am actually fvcking.

Okay, plate 2 - the hottest and my favorite:
10 days ago we had date #2, a nice Saturday afternoon at a festival then a little bit at a piano bar. I was in the kino zone, but she is very shy. Body language wasn't "stop" it was more flustered. I made a couple of chump errors but mostly it went well. End of date, she pecked me on the lips and I chumped on a real kiss close (the two pook rules I am working on are action and being more sexual).

So I realize this and tone down the texting a bit, making sure she initiates, which she did a couple times a day. So last Wednesday (a week ago today) I said "next time I kiss you I am going to linger a bit, good night" to which she replied "haha ok, GN".

Silence since then. Good for me - I need to establish I can't see her every weekend (and I was fvcking P1 last weekend) and that I don't have to txt her everyday. Hopefully her hampster is getting up to speed... OR I should pay attention in bible study to go by actions not words.

Either way, I intend to call her tonight, be careful not to make excuses for the NC, and say "I want to see you. Take me dancing Saturday night". I figure if she says hell yea, she is on the table, if she makes up any excuse at all not to go P2 is off the table. Thoughts?

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

Hello, I could use some wisdom my two of my plates:

P1 - as described in this thread:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=212459
I know wants some exclusivity. So my contact this week has been very minimal, mayb 1 txt to her 5. Went a full 24 without any contact.
So today she txts me:
P1: Do you have plans Friday?
Me: Yes ma'am
P1: just to clarify before I make other plans, do you have plans with someone else?
Me (after 10 min pause): Well I don't have a date, just plans with friends.
P1: Okie Dokie

I BLEW THAT, right? Full on CHUMP - the whole no date thing?

It's funny but, on here, it seems like whenever a guy tells the truth he feels like he fvcked up in some way. When he has a date with another girl, he'll say he's going out with friends. When he is staying home or going out with friends, he'll feel he needs to say he's going out with another chick.

Sometimes you guys over think the $hit out of these things.

This plate wants to go exclusive, she contacted you, asking you to hang out on V-Day. Last thing you want to do is say that you're going out with another chick. That would crush her, and you'd be in $hitsville.

Sometimes, you have to let them down easy. "Hey, I'm just going out with some of my buddies on Friday. You free later this weekend?"

 

[MOTU]

Espi - thanks. I actually don't want to spen Vday with P1 I think it would be too intense. I am actually gonna hand out with my friends. And I don't want her to join. Ok - I guess I am saying something about what I think of this plate lol. And you are right "take me dancing" is lame, I'll come up with something better. What I actually want her to do is teach me to tejano dance - she claims she is good at it. Maybe I'll just be direct about that.

P&V - my concern was that I was feeling like I had to explain myself to P1. I don't want to get to the point where I have to make excuses to her when I don't see her the 3x a week she wants to see me. You are probably right that I am overthinking it.

BTW, I have enjoyed the DJ Bible Study threads, thanks for doing that. Though I haven't been posting in them, I am indeed following them and soaking it in. I do think I'll make a date with P1 for early next week.

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

P&V - my concern was that I was feeling like I had to explain myself to P1. I don't want to get to the point where I have to make excuses to her when I don't see her the 3x a week she wants to see me. You are probably right that I am overthinking it.

That's a good point, and I guess I misunderstood. If you feel like she's getting too close and you want her to back of, then yeah, maybe just a simple yes would have worked. Either way, it was about V-Day, so maybe a detailed response was warranted.

In this scenario, I think you're on the right track. Treat the relationship how you want the relationship to be, they should follow suit. Don't text them every day, be busy, don't always available.

BTW, I have enjoyed the DJ Bible Study threads, thanks for doing that. Though I haven't been posting in them, I am indeed following them and soaking it in.

That's awesome man. And Thanks, I hope it helps!

 

[MOTU]

Ok, update: P2 didn't return my call. "Judge by actions". It's a good thing - if we weren't going to hump in the next couple dates I'd just as soon be off the hook.

P1 is mellow, no static about the lack of v-day plans. Already texted me happy valentines day this am. Have a date with her Tuesday.

Went out with P3 last night, kiss close. If logistics were better I am sure we would have fvcked.

Lunch with P4 is planned for Monday.

This sh!t has me running!