"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Thoughts on my diet?

Vintovka

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I've been logging what I eat for the last 16 days and it has really helped me realize how bad my diet was. Before I started writing things down I thought I was eating pretty good but was way off, still need improvment I'd guess.

I'm 6'2" and 265 lbs, so my first priority is body fat loss, followed by trying to keep as much muscle as possible and gain a little perhaps.

Here's the typical workout and rest days:

Rest days ------------------------ kcal fat carb protein
9:00 am
3 instant oats --------------------- 340 - 5.5 - 41 - 11
2 scoops whey -------------------- 220 - 3 --- 4 -- 46

12:30 pm
.5lbs Bottom Round, fat trimmed --- 430 - 19 -- 0 --- 61

3:00
2 part-skim mozorella string cheese 120 - 5 --- 0 --- 18

5:30
Garlic Chicken Stir-Fry w/ Brocolli -- 730 - 61 -- 10 -- 51

8:00
2 scoops whey ------------------- 220 - 3 ---- 4 -- 46

10:30
3 whole eggs --------------------- 225 - 12 -- 0 --- 18
1 scoop whey -------------------- 110 - 1.5 -- 2 --- 23

total ---------------------------- 2395 - 110 - 61 - 271
approx. 45% 10% 45%

This example would be a minimum, sometimes 100-200 kcals higher and up to 100 carbs.

Lift days
9:00 am
same as above ------------------- 560 - 8.5 -- 45 -- 57

11:30
same ---------------------------- 430 - 19 --- 0 --- 61

12:30 pm
2 cups fat free milk --------------- 180 - 0 --- 26 -- 16
2 scoops whey ------------------- 220 - 3 ---- 4 --- 46

---Lift for 45 mins to an hour---

1:15
2 yogurts ------------------------- 380 - 4 --- 70 -- 16

1:30
2 scoops whey -------------------- 220 - 3 ---- 4 --- 46

4:30
garlic chicken stir-fry w/ brocolli ---- 730 - 61--- 7 --- 48

7:00
3 part-skim string cheese ----------- 180 - 7.5 - 0 --- 27

10:00
2 scoops whey --------------------- 220 - 3 --- 4 --- 46

total ------------------------------ 3120 - 109 - 160 - 363
approx 32% 21% 47%

Along with this I drink about 2 gallons of water a day.

Saturday is cheat meal/carb up day, I might eat 200-400g over the course of the day.

Open to all feedback!

Thanks
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Vintovka said:
I've been logging what I eat for the last 16 days and it has really helped me realize how bad my diet was. Before I started writing things down I thought I was eating pretty good but was way off, still need improvment I'd guess.

I'm 6'2" and 265 lbs, so my first priority is body fat loss, followed by trying to keep as much muscle as possible and gain a little perhaps.

Here's the typical workout and rest days:

Rest days ------------------------ kcal fat carb protein
9:00 am
3 instant oats --------------------- 340 - 5.5 - 41 - 11
2 scoops whey -------------------- 220 - 3 --- 4 -- 46

LOOKS GOOD

12:30 pm
.5lbs Bottom Round, fat trimmed --- 430 - 19 -- 0 --- 61

HAVE SOME VEGGIES HERE

3:00
2 part-skim mozorella string cheese 120 - 5 --- 0 --- 18

NOT BIG ENOUGH FOR A MAIN MEAL, ADD IN SOME MEAT OR A SHAKE WITH A LITTLE OLIVE OIL OR SOME NUTS

5:30
Garlic Chicken Stir-Fry w/ Brocolli -- 730 - 61 -- 10 -- 51

FAR TOO MUCH FAT THERE MATE, I WOULD JUST HAVE THE FAT USED TO COOK WITH AND MAYBE SOME NUTS OR SOMETHING (~20G FAT)

8:00
2 scoops whey ------------------- 220 - 3 ---- 4 -- 46

ADD SOME FAT, 1TBSP OLIVE OIL IS GOOD

10:30
3 whole eggs --------------------- 225 - 12 -- 0 --- 18
1 scoop whey -------------------- 110 - 1.5 -- 2 --- 23

LOOKS FINE

total ---------------------------- 2395 - 110 - 61 - 271
approx. 45% 10% 45%

This example would be a minimum, sometimes 100-200 kcals higher and up to 100 carbs.

THAT'S A GOOD RECIPE FOR FAT LOSS BUT INCREASE CALORIES

Lift days
9:00 am
same as above ------------------- 560 - 8.5 -- 45 -- 57

11:30
same ---------------------------- 430 - 19 --- 0 --- 61

12:30 pm
2 cups fat free milk --------------- 180 - 0 --- 26 -- 16
2 scoops whey ------------------- 220 - 3 ---- 4 --- 46

I DON'T LIKE MILK ESPECIALLY WHEN TRYING TO LOSE BODYFAT. AN APPLE OR TWO WOULD BE A BETTER CHOICE

---Lift for 45 mins to an hour---

1:15
2 yogurts ------------------------- 380 - 4 --- 70 -- 16

1:30
2 scoops whey -------------------- 220 - 3 ---- 4 --- 46

LOOKS FINE ALTHOUGH MAYBE TRY A DIFFERENT CARB SOURCE THAN YOGURT (JUICE?)

4:30
garlic chicken stir-fry w/ brocolli ---- 730 - 61--- 7 --- 48

AS ABOVE

7:00
3 part-skim string cheese ----------- 180 - 7.5 - 0 --- 27

AS ABOVE

10:00
2 scoops whey --------------------- 220 - 3 --- 4 --- 46

WHERE'D THE EGGS GO? :(

total ------------------------------ 3120 - 109 - 160 - 363
approx 32% 21% 47%

I LIKE THE MACROS (MAYBE SOME MORE CALS THOUGH) BUT THEY COULD BE FROM BETTER SOURCES AND TIMED BETTER, SEE ABOVE

Along with this I drink about 2 gallons of water a day.

GOOD MAN!

Saturday is cheat meal/carb up day, I might eat 200-400g over the course of the day.

NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT!

Open to all feedback!

Thanks
There ya go! It's one of the better diets I've seen, that's for sure - but you need to increase calories and choose better fat sources (that garlic chicken? .. lol). Also spread your fat sources out evenly throughout the day, don't get 60g in one meal and 5g in another.

You need a full spectrum of fats if this is to succeed: animal fats you'll get from your meats but also have 1 tbsp olive oil, 10-15g fish oil and it wouldn't hurt to have a tbsp of flax oil as well, per day. Plug these in wherever you want as fat sources.

Are you doing cardio? You're a prime candidate for a.m. cardio on an empty stomach. In your case I would recommend some BCAAs pre-cardio, ~5g.

Lastly, add in as many green veggies (broccoli, asparagus, spinach, string beans etc - NOT sweetcorn or stuff like that which is high carb) as you like, wherever you like. Eat them after your protein/fat intake for satiety. :)
 

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I figured the garlic chicken needed to go, I'm a chinese take-out addict. The take out is just chicken, brocolli and baby corn, the kcals and macros on it are a ballpark estimate I got from the internets. Every chinese resturant seems to use different recipes so it's hard to judge.

Thinking about replacing it with another 1/2 pound of bottom round, which I cook in olive oil, so that's in there too, just not listed.

I do 15 minutes of medium or light morning cardio 6 times a week.
 

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Vintovka said:
I figured the garlic chicken needed to go, I'm a chinese take-out addict. The take out is just chicken, brocolli and baby corn, the kcals and macros on it are a ballpark estimate I got from the internets. Every chinese resturant seems to use different recipes so it's hard to judge.

Thinking about replacing it with another 1/2 pound of bottom round, which I cook in olive oil, so that's in there too, just not listed.

I do 15 minutes of medium or light morning cardio 6 times a week.
Bottom round sounds good.

The amount of **** in chinese food is insane, plus I'm sure there's carbs in it.

15 minutes of cardio barely scratches the surface at your weight my friend.. no offence but you need 30+ each and every day, building up to 45 over time and maybe even the full hour.
 

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I've been eating it 5x a week for the past 6 months, getting a little tired of it anyways.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Why not do HIIT?
 

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I can only jog for a couple hundred yards before I keel over. I'm getting there though.
 

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I can only jog for a couple hundred yards before I keel over. I'm getting there though.
don't jog.. incline walking on the treadmill or power walking up some hills is all you need.

HIIT is not immediately do-able for the larger guys (myself included) but can be built up to very slowly.
 
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