Thoughts on dating up

[WildRover]

Took a solid 4-5 months off from dating to focus on myself. Went out last night and met an attractive woman about a year older than me. Handled it well I think. Approached confidently. Kept her laughing and engaged for about 15 minutes. I ended the conversation and got her number before I left with my friends.

She is going out of town in a few days so I text her we should meet for drinks before she leaves. She said she would like that and if she can get her to-do list done before traveling we are gonna meet. Which seems reasonable but still annoying that it's a tentative thing.

ANYWA, She isn't just more successful than I am; we work in the same industry and she actually has the job I want (not literally, there are hundreds of these positions out there). But I am probably a handful of years away from attaining it in my career. How should I handle how much more successful she is than I? I don't feel intimidated by it. Your job doesn't define you. But it's a small challenge I'm trying to get my mind around. Thanks guys for any thoughts.

 

[WildRover]

By the way. This is my first post. I have looked at this site from time to time. There is a lot of good stuff on here. I appreciate the support and camaraderie. Cheers.

 

[teebear]

I'm facing a similar situation and can simply say that you need to demonstrate your value in some other way. The potential to become succsessful is just about as attractive as actually being succsessful so you should play up your ambition without making a big deal of the difference in your current affairs.

 

[Tictac]

If you believe that there is an 'up' or a 'down', you're just arguing about the height of the pedestal.

What a waste.

 

[FairShake]

Whether you are dating up or down is her problem, not your's.

I'm assuming you are in the beginning or moving up stages of your career. If that's the case you are "in progress" and not "down." At least that's the way I tend to look at things in regards to my own life.

 

[guru1000]

Why do you measure value strictly by tangibles?

 

[G_Govan]

I've never been bothered by what a woman does for a living. I'm interested in whether or not I can get good sex with a woman I'm attracted to.

In a nutshell, her accomplishments don't make my d-ck hard. Seriously think about that.

Ambition is more of a masculine trait, but as long as she behaves like a woman in my company I'm good. I'm not interested in dating another man, if you catch my drift.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Stop associating your self worth to a job that you have no control over. As long as someone else is holding the strings at your job, it's more advantageous for you to control your own strings outside of the job.

Consider this, if job status is so important why not just set up this woman with any guy in your company that is higher on the ladder regardless if they are a good match or not. If all you have to offer this woman is your status in your company you should consider sticking to women who are beneath you and hope that they never get promoted before you.

 

[sodbuster]

I don't care WHAT she does for a living.... MY question is "HOW does she fit in MY life"