"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Thoughts on an older plate

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not older in age even though she is, but older as in years and months.

So she's from 5 or so years back we dated a few months then I went ghost and I moved out of state. 5 years later (a few month ago) we reconnected and it was to much to fast she broke off the sex but still wanted me around. I ghosted again and now she is still contacting me every few weeks trying to keep tabs but last time I tried a few weeks ago to set a meet up she told me she was out of town till mid July. Haven't contacted her since but she left a few strange posts on her wall about love something to the effect of if you don't love yourself you can't love others. She's had some trauma one of her parents died a few years back but she's stoic about it.

I'm not really looking for advice with her as how ever it shake out I'm cool with. I'm just curious as to what you think her mind set is,stable unstable.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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The Duke

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Girls like this have bonding/attachment problems as well as issues with self-love and lack coping/problem solving skills. At the core, they are tough to have relationships with. If you keep things pretty surface it usually works, until they develop deeper feelings around the 3month mark.
 
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