Thoughts on a situation in a club

[SteR]

I figured I'd make this thread just to get some insight from others. I'm interested to hear what other people think of the situation.

I was in a club in Vegas a while ago and there were a couple of girls standing by the bar. They were clearly single (constantly looking around). One of them was clearly more beautiful than the other - she was also wearing a ridiculously tight skirt that was drawing guys in from all over the club.

At the time I was just standing to the side, chatting to my friend. We watched over the course of about 20-30 minutes as literally guy after guy walked up to these girls and tried it on with them - I'd say about 10 guys had approached at least. I don't know if it was an American thing (I've never seen anything like it in the UK) but these guys were literally lining up to hit on this girl.

The funny thing is that this girl was constantly looking over in my direction (when she figured I wasn't looking). Both of them actually drifted over towards our direction and my (completely wasted) friend tried talking to the hotter one but he completely murdered the situation.

At the same time another girl had come up and started talking to me, under the watchful eyes of the other two girls, but it fizzled out (I wasn't particularly interested in her). By this stage they'd drifted off and I didn't get a chance to do anything.

Anyway the issue I have with this situation is that I felt so powerless. Usually if a girl is flashing signs of interest I'll just walk up and start conversation. The problem was that this girl literally had men queuing up to get her attention and I felt like I was just another guy in the waiting line. It's very difficult to feel like you have any power in the situation when you feel like you're just another number. How on earth do you handle situations like this? Like I said, usually I'd just walk over and strike up conversation but this entire situation just threw me off completely.

I wonder if it's just an issue with frame. In hindsight I figure I probably should've just thrown caution to the wind and taken a shot but I didn't feel I was in the right state of mind at the time..

Any thoughts? How would others have approached this?

 

[gravityeyelids]

Yea that's a tough situation. You're already in a better position because you're not approaching HER, but rather she's showing YOU signs of interest. With these super hot 10's, you def have to play it differently. Like you said, she has guys (probably attractive guys) lining up to open her.

In this situation, a nondirect move might work better. The fact that you're hardly responding to her is likely more attractive than directly opening her and conveying interest. You had a head start in this because you were trying to game another girl within eyesight of her. What i would probably do, is try to build proof around her for a short time. Chat with other hot girls so that she can see. Chat up the bartenders, befriend a few cool looking guys. And sometime during this interaction, shoot her back some eye contact. She might even come over to you.

Then again... with these SUPER HOT girls in the club... a lot of them are simply attention wh0res that just like the ego boost and have no intention of going home with a guy. A lot of the time it's a big waste of time. That being said...it doesn't hurt to try. Worst case you get seen talking to a hot girl. And if you REALLY blow it and she slaps you or something, then you have a hilarious story to tell people.

TL;DR: Build social proof around her while ignoring her. Shoot her eye contact at some point. Wait for her to open or open her over the shoulder with something casual.

 

[Mike32ct]

The funny thing is that this girl was constantly looking over in my direction (when she figured I wasn't looking). Both of them actually drifted over towards our direction and my (completely wasted) friend tried talking to the hotter one but he completely murdered the situation.

^This is the key paragraph.

It doesn't matter if 100 guys approached, she was (potentially) showing interest to YOU. They didn't want your friend to open them. They wanted you to open them.

I've actually had a few good nights being say guy #12 at the deli counter queue (or "line" as we say in the US). Women can and do reject MULTIPLE men and accept one later on. The odds are obviously better if you are given eye contact.

I agree with the other poster that they might just be AWs with no intention of hooking up at all. But it was worth a try.

I don't think ignoring and playing hard to get is the best strategy in Vegas. She can easily give up on you and find the next hottest guy.