Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Thought vasectomy come undone.....created another problem.

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Long time lurker, first time poster. Kind of an odd question, but I need another guys advise.

Last summer I felt something odd in my lower groin area (scrotum). It felt like I had a piece of something v shaped in my sac.

Now the only surgery I ever had was a vasectomy some years ago, maybe 2003 or 2004 and what I remember was the doc saying this was a new method and used a clamp or clip, don't remember and the doc has since retired.

This scared the wife , thinking my vasectomy came loose. Went to the doctor and he couldn't find anything, it was no longer there.

Doc acted like he didn't believe me and told me not to worry. We are in our 40's and probably still able to get pregnant. As a "temporary" precaution I told her I would wear a rubber until this gets straightened out.

After waiting weeks to get in to a uro , I explained my situation and concern. He had me do a semen test. It came back "negative" for sperm. However, doc pointed out that I had started testosterone replacement and this could be the reason for negative or low sperm count. He put me on a fertility med to "kick start" my system and retest. This also came back negative. Doctor says he cannot 100 % guarantee I am sterile since he didn't perform my vas.

My wife still thinks I might have come loose and likes having no mess after sex, so you guessed it, I am still wearing a rubber.

Should I just give up and wait for menopause? Go to another uro? Just get another vasectomy (ouch)?

Sorry for the long post, but I would listen to any advice at this point.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Vasectomys are not that bad in my opinion (had mine done but they snipped me and cauldered the ends and stuff em back in a tiny hole that didn't even need a stitch to close up). Your in and out in a few moments. Don't know about clamps... I think snipping would be better. I did it on friday and was back to work monday like nothing happened.

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I will never get a vasectomy, and my wife will never get a hysterectomy. She does not take birth control either. She is so much more regulated now, emotions and all, and everything seems more 'natural'. Wetter, all that type stuff. Natural is best IMO. If we are going to use birth control, it's a condom, not a medication or surgery. That's the trade off. It doesn't feel as good, but you don't get pregnant.

Wife had that mirena thing years back (looks like a f*cking anchor), and that sh*t punctured her cervix and she had to get it surgically removed. That was it for me. That's all it took for me to understand that birth control is not the best course of action.
 

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speed dawg said:
If we are going to use birth control, it's a condom, not a medication or surgery. That's the trade off. It doesn't feel as good, but you don't get pregnant.

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It is just a little tough to go using a condom after years not using one. Likewise, she cannot be on hormones and has a med condition where she must never get pregnant.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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