thought: not everything works for everyone

[Delta]

howdy,

just had this thought recently. sure, all the cold pickups and stuff like that sound great in theory. but you know what? it's not really working for me... and maybe that's ok.

it is certainly a truth in this world: NOT EVERYTHING WILL WORK FOR EVERYONE... and yet, the dj community relentlessly drills into your head the same kind of stuff.

but maybe not all the tactics are suitable for all personality types. and here's another thing - not all personality types that differ from "stereotypical dj" is pathological!

so absolutely, there is a way to get laid. there is a way to get women in your life. but maybe it's not the ways that are being written about most here.

maybe it's church. maybe it's low key meetings with friends and you end up meeting someone in the group. maybe it's online. or speed dating. or "it's just lunch". or a professional matchmaking service....

keep developing, keep at building confidence, learning to 'fake it' and give people their fantasies (instead of resolutely holding onto "reality" as if that's some kind of virtue), keep learning to become capable and competent in many situations.

but realize that there might be alternative ways for you to meet your woman. don't feel bad if the "standards" here don't work. THERE IS NO "CAN'T"... only "HOW CAN I?".... keep thinking. think outside the box. consider you at your best... what will work for YOU.

luck to us all....

god i'm lonely...

delta

 

[Heyzeus]

i was browsing through the dj bible stuff and i really thought the stuff in the anti dump machine was really interesting and insightful.

I've never been one who was interested in banging as many chicks or picking up as many chicks as possible. I'm more interested in meeting girls that like me and like being with me/spending time with me/are interested in me.

I'm more interested in that quality girl over the ONS girls.

So i found the anti-dump machine stuff interesting because that's sort of the method i've been using for awhile.

I'm not gonna cater to a girls every need, put her on a pedestal, worship her or be her doormat. I'm going to enjoy my life and find a girl who wants to enjoy it with me and who can also add unique interesting things to my life.

So for me if a girl wasn't interested in me it wasn't/isn't a big deal as i didn't have to waste my time on someone who wasn't right for me.

So while i agree with some of the methods like being more confident and not being a chump i definately think people also have to have their own methods that mesh with their own style and definately agree that not every method will work for every person.

anyways what was i rambling about now, i'm tired.

 

[Austrian]

I'm more interested in that quality girl over the ONS girls.

so am i but you still have to master the game to get that girl when she comes along. how do you expect to get her attracted to you if you don't know how? and even if know in theory- out there in the field its a whole new game.
and how do you know if the ONS girl is not a quality girl? maybe she just got screwed over by guys just looking for ONS? i once had damn luck, did every thing unconsciously right and wound up sleeping with the girl the same day we met for the first time- she is a fine lady i was together with for several years but i could have easily bailed out after the first night. Would that have changed her qualities?