"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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MartinARMT

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First off I hope this is in the right area.

Hello everyone, here is a little info about myself. I'm 28 and a veteran. Currently a full time student.

I am currently going through a divorce after a few years of marriage. It has been ugly so far, and we don't even have kids. The first half of my marriage was great. The second half not so much. Not to get into to much detail, after the military I've had problems with depression and other such things. It shook my confidence. Add in the divorce and my confidence level is at 0%. I've gained about 70lbs after the military, which also doesn't help.

I found this site by googling something or another about confidence. I am in a desperate need to get some. My self esteem is ridiculously low. I have already started to take care of myself. I have lost approximately 40lbs since she left. I have gone to a couple of functions I found on meetup.com to start to meet new people since I really don't know anyone(besides family) here.

That is pretty much it for now. I don't have any specific questions of yet but i'm sure I eventually will.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Welcome Martin. Keep working on youself, reading, learning and putting yourself out there. Trust me as someone who is working on the same things as you it's hard but dammit it's WELL worth it. Your confidence will rebound and your past will be behind you. Cheers to becoming the best you that you can be!
 
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Thank you for your service,

Life after the military followed by divorce is very overwhelming as I myself have witness many individuals going
through the same thing right after their contract was over, some manage to get back on their feet while others
were unlucky and took many months of counseling and rehab
(Alcohol/Drugs, common problem for many veterans).

As for now I think you're already on the right track as far as realizing your flaws and fixing them

And welcome to the community!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Open your mind to knowledge. Read the DJ Bible. At least once a day for 30 minutes.

Starting working on yourself, go to the gym, eat healthy, get your finances in check and start posting field reports of all your experiences so that we can help you improve.
 
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MartinARMT said:
How has it worked out for you?
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Well, the woman who divorced me regrets her decision. Moving on and having good relations with the women of your future is the best way to leave the marriage of your past.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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