"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Those of you who are complaining about not pulling

blueline

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My advice to you is to cold approach uglier/more psychologically compromised women (you'll be able to tell which girls are BPD/bipolar sometimes just by this glassy eye look that they have). Come back to me in a few weeks and complain about how you're not getting laid, 'cause honestly it's going to be very difficult to not get laid given that you have a bare minimum non-asperger's level of social skills.

Honestly, if you're an average guy and want to bang the hotties completely using social skills (i.e. game), but don't want to work out, learn how to recognize the behaviors of someone with bipolar/BPD. Go to a BPD support group.

I mean, c'mon, getting laid through the cold approach is hard enough, and now throw on the added difficulty level of chasing the 8 or 9 with extremely high standards and your probability of getting laid drops even further. Even someone as insanely good looking, confident, charming, and most likely wealthy as Paul Janka only ****s 11% of the numbers he gets (you can be damn sure this guy is only chasing >6's) and he's approaching extraordinary amounts of women.

My friend recently got into pickup and has been approaching tons of sets in the local college library. This guy is f'ugly (just imagine the biggest dork ever, that's him). Now I'm of the belief that cold approaching set after set at your university's library is sorta creepy, but I've joined him on his sarging adventures here a few times. One evening, the sets were honestly not that attractive, but we did it anyways just for kicks. Guess what? We closed every single two set out of 6, and several of the numbers were solid. My buddy got a date out of this (I totally would've banged the girl, but he said he wasn't interested and complained she was too tall), and I also got one. I didn't go on my date, though, as I'm really not interested in ****ing a most likely virginal 6 and then totally ditching her. I'm a 24 yr old graduate student, I have 3 years left at this school, I don't want to get a bad reputation.

Regardless, the pattern I'm noticing is that outside of the mentally compromised hotties, I cannot cold approach pull hot chicks simply through the confidence act (aka game) and dressing well. I can totally cold approach pull non-mentally compromised <7's. If the hottie is mentally compromised, the sky is the limit (ex girlfriend turned heads, she looked like Natalie Portman).

Here's another interesting thing I'm finding. Remember that totally dorky looking guy I mentioned? I'd personally say that his game is MUCH better than mine. He has the confidence to open girls not giving him any signals, I rarely open girls not giving me non-verbal signals. I rarely get good responses when I cold approach girls not giving me non-verbal signals, yet he does. But guess what? As soon as I jump into an interaction as his wingman, the attention begins to wander over towards me. This guy's game is almost just as good as mine, honestly. What's the difference? I'm better looking than him.

I'm not saying that looks trump everything (they don't; status is HUGE), but god damn, they are more important than TD or any PUA scammer would ever lead you to believe.

Outside of a basic set of social skills, some confidence to approach, and an ability to read very simple non-verbal signals, there isn't much to this unless you have an autism spectrum disorder or have suffered from extremely low self-esteem.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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sux2bu

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blueline said:
there isn't much to this unless you have an autism spectrum disorder or have suffered from extremely low self-esteem.

I have Asperger's and do just fine with approaching, pushing, pulling and closing. Actually, I think it gives me an advantage in some areas. I too look like an average Joe, but I do have the courage to approach something I'm interested in like your dorky friend does.

I honestly believe more guys are afraid of approaching girls than they are of dying. Seriously.
 
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spinaroonie

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Problem is so many <6's are FAT these days. Blubber is the ultimate game/killer.

Where are all the homely, plain Janes with trim bodies? An early 20s girl with a bland face but slim figure is still good for a roll in the sack. Problem is these are getting increasingly rare. Fvck the obesity epidemic.
 

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cold approach good looking girls.

If they reject you, then it'll be a learning curve to not caring. And not caring what others say is one of the biggest advantages you can have. Not caring what hot girls say? The sky of approaching is the limit.
 

PapiChulo

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But men have to have standards, dont we.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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thegator39

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I can approach depending on the situation. When I was on vacation, I went up to a HB10 milf and introduced myself...but it was fairly obvious that she was open to being approached.

I also went up to a young woman with her mom (turned out to be 20) and asked her to dance and she agreed.

Yet if I see a girl at the mall or bookstore I feel nervous beyond belief and don't do anything.
 
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