"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Those experienced with Histrionic Personality Disorder Help!

Accension

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There's this girl I strongly believe to have HPD.
I originally thought it was BPD but after much research HPD seems much more likely.

Even both occuring at the same time is plausible in this case.

It's important that all with experience in girls affected by Cluster B Personality Disorders, particularly HPD, share your stories with me.
I'm very interested in things they've done.

My aim is to find similarities and hopefully avoid a dangerous situation, please help ASAP, this is important.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Educating yourself on the disorder is smart; however if your doing so in hopes of trying to establish a romantic relationship with her, then you will lose. Do a search on BPD, there are SEVERAL threads talking about it.

Normally girls with BPD are suffering from multiple disorders at the same time, its a monster you don't want to mess with at all!!



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Pimp-sicle said:
Educating yourself on the disorder is smart; however if your doing so in hopes of trying to establish a romantic relationship with her, then you will lose. Do a search on BPD, there are SEVERAL threads talking about it.

Normally girls with BPD are suffering from multiple disorders at the same time, its a monster you don't want to mess with at all!!



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Lets just say a relationship is unavoidable.
Lets say she shares a fuc>ing room with me.
Not a room in the same house but my room with me!

What it is, is complicated.
This is... bad.

Also, apostrophe botton is broken.
 

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I spent a long time with a girl who I am almost certain has BPD, and let me tell you I do not envy your situation.

When they get angry they lose all ability for rational thought, to the point where I would be worried about falling asleep in the same room when she's very angry.

She did a lot of different crap, but some things that stand out are she could and often did change moods and even her entire personality on a dime. As in she would show up fun and lovey, 5 minutes later I would literally be getting shrieked and swung at, and a few minutes after that she's talking about how important I am to her and not to leave and she's sorry. Or the times when she dumps you because not having a boyfriend for the next day or so is convenient to her immediate desires, but then comes crawling back the next day.

As others have described them before, these girls are black holes. They do not have a personality - it is completely flexible to become whatever they think it needs to be at any particular time to meet their goals. The goals tend to be to have somebody love and pay attention to them, but of course not too much, as then they freak out also.

In many ways though the craziness is actually very predictable. After a while you will notice patterns.

I have more thoughts and stories, but should get going to work. Might post more later.
 

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To the OP. Firstly why do you believe that your roommate is Cluster B?
You asked us who have had Cluster B girlfriends to share stories. IF you read the BPD threads via the search facility you can access a lot of them. There is no point in us re-typing all that drama again - after all we have gotten rid of our nutjobs.

Perhaps if you post back with a few anecdotes we may be able to assist.

Err, while I think of it, read my signature.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Stay away from crazy *****es. There are sane girls out there. Don't be afraid to approach them.
 
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