This whole getting a girl thing is seriously making me go COMPLETELY INSANE

[Demystify]

Seriously, I'm about to lose control. I just imagined myself holding this one girl that rejected me at gunpoint and forcing her to have sex with me. Now once again I just IMAGINED this and it didn't actually happen, but it's still bad that I'm imagining things like that. I also imagined myself hitting some other girl in the face until she was unconscious. Now don't get me wrong, I would never like to abuse a girl. It's just that this whole rejection thing is really getting to me in the wrong way. Maybe I'm not the only one, but it feels like girls give me way worse rejections than anyone I know. They really go out of their way to be mean to me, and not in the good way. I'm letting girls get under my skin in a really bad way.

I'm literally shaking as I'm typing this. And bad thing is that the girls who usually make me feel this way aren't even that great, they just have a unique way of getting under my skin.

Anyone with any advice or help would be much appreciated.

 

[King Turi]

Mate it sounds to me like you need to calm down and maybe look at other aspects of your life, mate.

Women should never be your top priority mate, get yourself worked out and on top of everything mentally and physically before bothering with this crap.
The women come by default once you are happy with yourself.

Seriously mate, think about your job, your appearance, your hobbies, and think about what you'd like to do, how you'd like to look, and what kind of hobbies and stuff you would like to partake in.

Maybe hit up the pub with a few mates and have a few drinks too, mate.

 

[moneyisking]

The women come by default once you are happy with yourself.

Turi said it.

 

[Proselytiser]

Girls being mean in their rejections always inspired me. What kind of pathetic creature does that for no reason other than to inflate her ego and critically fragile self-esteem... cold *****iness I can understand. But meanness is something else entirely. Should give you hope. That is god-damn PROOF that you are higher value.

 

[lugsy211]

The girls who reject you without tact show their true colours, you don't need that. As for the things you've been imagining - you're angry - you need to vent. You can do this by:

-Doing intense sets in the gym
-Going for a drink with your male only mates
-Getting out of town, take a trip

Whatever works for you.

 

[Demystify]

Thanks for all the advice so far, any other advice would be greatly appreciated

 

[Poonani Maker]

Ok, my advice is, I'm really the sh!t, in all aspects, EXCEPT "Exciting" personality and book-worm know-it-all facts orator. I'm no orator. Everything else, though, looks, body, job, smarts, honesty, uniqueness, happy, manly, support network of friends, health, social contacts from many walks of life, etc etc. I DO possess. And I can tell you, Women, or just "girls," treat me mean and reject me for NO reason too. I think that 50/50 they HATE me because, they see, that I don't really give a sh!t about them, and in turn, they want to turn every other woman against me for not giving a sh!t about them. It burns them to a crisp to think that an in-the-flesh obviously hot guy with a Lot of Value, is not going for them.

I've seen this sooo much lately. They can't stand it when I have no interest in them. And they certainly Will Not show it first. They SHOW it by being mean, by rejecting, by talking behind my fvckin back, trying to steer everyone "who would be my friend" away from me. I just say, "aww fvck it" and move on. I only Need me. And I know I'm happy, with or without the b!tch.

 

[RedZone]

Yeah, whenever I get rejected I know that one day they will realize they missed out. Also, dont take it personally cause who knows what their reasoning is for doing it. Just know that you will become something and they will always be wondering what they missed out on.

 

[ENIGMA16]

Someone else said it best in that when girls do this they show their true colors, but I just wanted to add that on top of the fact that this shows you that they are of lower value, you have also saved a lot of time that would have been wasted pursuing these girls. So in a way it's good that they were up front with their ****ty personality because it saves you time, and time is valuable.

I'd take this kind of girl over the kind that gives you the runaround only to **** you over in the end any day.

 

[DonJuan11]

Seriously, I'm about to lose control. I just imagined myself holding this one girl that rejected me at gunpoint and forcing her to have sex with me. Now once again I just IMAGINED this and it didn't actually happen, but it's still bad that I'm imagining things like that. I also imagined myself hitting some other girl in the face until she was unconscious. Now don't get me wrong, I would never like to abuse a girl. It's just that this whole rejection thing is really getting to me in the wrong way. Maybe I'm not the only one, but it feels like girls give me way worse rejections than anyone I know. They really go out of their way to be mean to me, and not in the good way. I'm letting girls get under my skin in a really bad way.

I'm literally shaking as I'm typing this. And bad thing is that the girls who usually make me feel this way aren't even that great, they just have a unique way of getting under my skin.

Anyone with any advice or help would be much appreciated.

I totally hear you dude but you have to realize they only get under your skin if you let them. Everyone wants to bring you down, everyone wants to have what you have, no one wants to see you succeed, but you have to fight through it and never ever back down. That is a champion. If you keep fighting through it, then the (girls) will see nothing will faze you and love it.

I used to be like that until I learned how not to. Watching alot of porn helped too, makes you not that eager to have sex -> less nervous around them, even the hot ones. Wouldn't recommend that approach though.