"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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This website has become a crutch

Deadly_Ripped

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I have used this website for a long time. I've learned a lot, and owe a great deal to it for my current place, not just in terms of social success, but also professional and physical success. That being said, I have found myself browsing this forum and posting only to placate insecurities that arise out of inane details of my current circumstances.

For this reason, I'm logging out and taking a break from this site. I think that I'll be able to manage my emotional instabilities and brief periods of lagging social validation in stride, having built up a decent sense of self and self esteem over the past decade of life. These should sustain me for a while.

Thank you all for your guidance and input over the past several months, and I'm sure that I'll be back in a while. In the mean time, I'm going to start relying solely on self-guidance that I've developed as a result of this site.

Best Regards,
DR
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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runner83

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Good luck dude.

This is something that is good for all of us to do.

Too often I come on here and see posts from guys who would be better learning from harsh experience.

Experience is the best teacher you have, and over analysis will do your game more harm than good.

Personally, I come on here mostly (at the moment) to post in my broken arm recovery journal and offer advice. I almost never ask for advice, since I know that it's best learnt in person.

I'm not a master DJ by any means but improving bit by bit every day. And that is all any of us can do.

Focus on improving day by day, and not become dependent on advice from others, but find our own way.
 

NoCommitments

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Both of you are very well spoken!!

It a good feeling to know there are a cluster of gentleman out here!

The inner game is extremely important, when you lose site of that it's def time to change course.
 

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I believe that there are some people who come here looking for a solution, and either just won't find it here, or need to dig deeper than others. Some have deep-rooted problems that really need fixing. I used to be that way years before coming here, but experience and cruel honesty fixed that.

By the time I came here, I had already read some stuff, like David DeAngelo so I got the gist of the whole "don't kiss up to a woman" deal. What I didn't get was portraying confidence.

Funny thing, I didn't have to dig very far. I didn't even need the bible, really. Sure, I've read it, but the thing that made everything come together for me, really, was the Book of Pook. Some come here for years and gradually change, but for me, all it took was reading, assessing, and applying the knowledge given by Pook for me to see intense results.

Good luck, don't ever lose sight, brah.
 

L B

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If it's a crutch for you, then it is a good idea to take a break.

For me, I came to learn and improve myself. When I got to where I wanted, I come back to this site to refresh my knowledge reading different threads. Also, I try to give back when I can. That's the only way to show my gratitude to this site.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Atom Smasher

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For me, the best way to leverage this site is to hang out for a while, participate in conversations, and then leave for a time to concentrate fully on putting the principles into practice. After an appropriate period I then come back for a re-up, and the cycle continues. This way I'm receiving the benefit of the site without becoming lost in the virtual world.
 

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agree with the OP.
 

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I just started to come back and give advice after having an almost year hiatus from the website.

It is good to leave the web site and then come back and give advice from the real world

- comic_relief
 

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Agreed,

This website should be a supplement to your game. Most of the advice here is common sense. From time to time you need to come back and brush up on this common sense.
 

comic_relief

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Fumbduck said:
Agreed,

This website should be a supplement to your game. Most of the advice here is common sense. From time to time you need to come back and brush up on this common sense.
you would think it is common sense but it wasn't common sense until we learned it :rockon:

- comic_relief
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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The College Jock

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When you need to announce to a forum that you're leaving, you know its probably a good thing to take a break.

But yeah. Sometimes our blinded judgement of ourselves makes us believe we're relevant and need to announce our departure.

But I see the hyprocrisy in my words - that's my ticket, virgins.
 
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