"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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This sucks, wtf!

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Love_Games?!?

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I'm really not sure what to do anymore guys. I've just recently got into the whole sex scene. Basically for the first few times with this girl I was having trouble getting and maintaining a hard on with her. I went to the doctor and was prescribed Viagra. He informed me it was performance anxiety and that after using it a few times I would be good to go.

Well I took the Viagra and it seemed to be working. So we began... however after about 30-40 minutes we both kinda gave up... for some reason I couldn't get off in her. This drove me crazy because she immediately got upset and started thinking that I was not attracted to her.

Now just last night, another girl came over to my spot and we began fooling around. Same issue... had an erection but then I could feel it starting to fade so I popped a 50mg Viagra pill. However this time nothing... I'm not sure if I didn't wait long enough but this is getting ridiculous. I was drinking that night, but it wasn't excessive.

What the hell am I going to do guys, this is really killing me. I'm starting to become more afraid of sex because of the let downs its causing me.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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worrying is only going to make it worse.

it is performance anxiety.

you are so worried about putting on a good show, that you sabotage yourself. if you could just relax and enjoy the moment, you would be fine.
 
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I realize its all in my head, but relaxing is much easier said then done. Considering this has happened around 5 times its so hard not to think about it happening.

That's the main reason I went to the doctor for Viagra. I tried to stop thinking about it and just have fun and I wasn't able to do it.
 
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Maybe you should just talk with this girl and tell her "let's not have sex right away" and then you won't be all worried about it. Then you can get comfortable around her, and once you're comfortable with her the two of you can do it like they do on the Discovery channel.

Take it slower, because clearly it's stressing you out big time. Have fun! With no pressure to HAVE SEX AND KEEP IT HARD, you'll probably get far more into it than before.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Love_Games?!? said:
bump... really could use some advice
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you've been given advice, now go use it. Stop looking for a magic answer to all of your problems. If that doesn't work, consult a sex therapist.
 
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I had performance anxiety the first 5-10 times or so that I had sex, had many of the same panicky thoughts you do.

You probably don't even need the meds. Just get some more experience under your belt (LOL) and you'll be good to go. Eventually you're less shocked that you're having sex and more just concerned about blasting a two-roper across her chest.
 
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