"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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This stuff works..my story of the biggest AFC ever to a growing MAN

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I came here five years ago a whining AFC? Last night, I surprised myself twice.


1.

I was at the gym and there was a this beautiful girl with a batman shirt on. I told her I loved her shirt. even though she was engaged, we had a good conversation about comic books and how big of a wonder woman fan she was.

2.

After the gym, met friends for a drink. A female friend brought two girls who were 7's. My other friends were being shy. It wasn't until I broke the ice with the 7's, displaying alpha behavior, that all the guys eased into the conversation. Even though we were all in a group, I Saw the girls talking and throwing IOI's at me. Ended the night getting their facebooks and we are all hanging out alone. The only thing is which one do I choose? They were both pretty and cool...haha

When I got home, I talked to my friend on the phone who I have known since my AFC days. He calmly said..."I knew you always had it in you, you just needed to know how to use it."



The problem with us here is we don't know or are afraid of taking charge. ONce you do that and are able to let go and not have onenitis (which I had for seven years...I know, bad) you are going to see the world change and your ability to get girls is going to change.

Also...rid your life of people who say you can't do it...like *****y ex's...it will take a load off.


I am still not perfect, but have improved so much that I hit myself for not having this confidence when I was younger (I am 27). Stay with this stuff.. if you work at it and it will work...Oh, I have failed...bad...many times.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Congratulations on your growth, but is there anywhere in this post where you are actually getting women?
 

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zekko said:
but is there anywhere in this post where you are actually getting women?
what's with the negativity? It's not all about getting women. He could have started off not even being able to look a girl in the eye. Now he's opening up strangers and able to hold conversations with them. Yes he's been here for a while and still has areas to work on (should've asked for the girl's number instead of FB). We all have different starting points, but as long as we're growing, that's all that really matters.

Congrats to you Oscar. Make sure you keep on keepin on and continue to improve yourself.
 

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what's with the negativity?
Not trying to be negative, hence the congratulations, which was sincere.
Just wondering if I missed something in the original post.
And it's tough love here.
If he's been here five years, go grab a woman and go out with her. Don't make it more complicated than it needs to be. It's great that he's talking to girls, but it shouldn't take five years to work up the nerve to ask someone out. Don't let life pass you by!
 

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Back to answer some questions.

I am getting girls, but these two went exceptionally well. I used to not be able to pull off what I did last night so smoothly. I have done it before, but last night it was just a flawless performance, it ran so well. It was like a pitcher throwing a no hitter. The main idea of my post outside of telling you my story was to show anyone can grow because I used to be terrible.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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