"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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This stuff works..my story of the biggest AFC ever to a growing MAN

oscarxp25

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I came here five years ago a whining AFC? Last night, I surprised myself twice.


1.

I was at the gym and there was a this beautiful girl with a batman shirt on. I told her I loved her shirt. even though she was engaged, we had a good conversation about comic books and how big of a wonder woman fan she was.

2.

After the gym, met friends for a drink. A female friend brought two girls who were 7's. My other friends were being shy. It wasn't until I broke the ice with the 7's, displaying alpha behavior, that all the guys eased into the conversation. Even though we were all in a group, I Saw the girls talking and throwing IOI's at me. Ended the night getting their facebooks and we are all hanging out alone. The only thing is which one do I choose? They were both pretty and cool...haha

When I got home, I talked to my friend on the phone who I have known since my AFC days. He calmly said..."I knew you always had it in you, you just needed to know how to use it."



The problem with us here is we don't know or are afraid of taking charge. ONce you do that and are able to let go and not have onenitis (which I had for seven years...I know, bad) you are going to see the world change and your ability to get girls is going to change.

Also...rid your life of people who say you can't do it...like *****y ex's...it will take a load off.


I am still not perfect, but have improved so much that I hit myself for not having this confidence when I was younger (I am 27). Stay with this stuff.. if you work at it and it will work...Oh, I have failed...bad...many times.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Congratulations on your growth, but is there anywhere in this post where you are actually getting women?
 

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zekko said:
but is there anywhere in this post where you are actually getting women?
what's with the negativity? It's not all about getting women. He could have started off not even being able to look a girl in the eye. Now he's opening up strangers and able to hold conversations with them. Yes he's been here for a while and still has areas to work on (should've asked for the girl's number instead of FB). We all have different starting points, but as long as we're growing, that's all that really matters.

Congrats to you Oscar. Make sure you keep on keepin on and continue to improve yourself.
 

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what's with the negativity?
Not trying to be negative, hence the congratulations, which was sincere.
Just wondering if I missed something in the original post.
And it's tough love here.
If he's been here five years, go grab a woman and go out with her. Don't make it more complicated than it needs to be. It's great that he's talking to girls, but it shouldn't take five years to work up the nerve to ask someone out. Don't let life pass you by!
 

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Back to answer some questions.

I am getting girls, but these two went exceptionally well. I used to not be able to pull off what I did last night so smoothly. I have done it before, but last night it was just a flawless performance, it ran so well. It was like a pitcher throwing a no hitter. The main idea of my post outside of telling you my story was to show anyone can grow because I used to be terrible.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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