"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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This stuff just does not stop...

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Well if you read my last post, about a girl that I kind of like, that brought her, J, formal date to my apartment last weekend (Yea I've decided I shouldn't care but deep down I do and it was real fvcked up).

So get this, last night there were about 30 people in my apartment (J not being one).

I ended up fvcking a HB 6 at around 2:30 3:00 in the morning. Then my phone vibrated like 4 or 5 times and I look at it after I'm done and it was texts from all my friends saying J was here. So now that was awkward, I walked out of my room with this girl and theres the girl I want. Now eventually she just ended up leaving and I texted her saying Hey, why'd you leave. NO ANSWER.

I think shes pist about this little encounter I had, but when it all comes down to it, she got a taste of her own medicine (If you read my last thread about her metaphorically spitting on me).

So why am I posting this now? Because after last night I realized she actually does have feelings for me or else she wouldn't have left last night. So now I gotta figure out how to turn this around into a positive and hopefully snag this girl back.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Smells like teen spirit... Or is it teen angst?
 
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i didnt see the original thread that you are referring to, but just because she left doesnt mean that she has feelings for you.

it just means that she felt trumpted. she probably loved the attention from you and when she saw you with someone else felt like she didnt get it anymore.


but again, im only speculating i havent seen this original thread.
 
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If she's interested it'll more likely increase her attraction knowing some other woman wants you. This is pretty basic.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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UPDATE: Okay, I did not add in the fact that I was quite intoxicated, but hey everyone here is wasted on thurs, fri, sat lol. Anyway my friend just informed me that I was talking to him and my other friend in my roomate's bedroom. We were talking about how they were all texting me while I was having sex saying that J was coming over blah blah. While I'm sitting there telling them this story about me and that girl and the fact that they kept texting me, J and her friend walk in (apparently) and then J signaled for her friend to come with her to the bathroom. So now I realized that she must have felt awkward...Do I say soemthing to her about it or not?
 
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Alright, well last night she was over (again). Only I was drunk, she didn't drink because her mom was here and they wanted to get up really early today and go around campus. So I didn't really spit any game to her at all. I mean I talked to her for a little while, not about anything in particular really just making conversation. So now after they left, my friend and I (his GF is her (J) best friend) are sitting in his room talking. He goes off saying that she now wants me more....which I can see where he is saying that just because now she knows I can have other girls and I'm not just waiting around for her.

But she didn't show it last night. Why?

Also, one of my friends from home (girl), heard that I had sex with this other girl. When I asked her how she said well J told this girl in my sorority and then she told me. That girl that J told is her best friend. So clearly she cares or else she wouldn't be telling her best friend this.

And to top it all off, its mother's night at J's sorority and she and about 3 or 4 of her friends are coming here with their moms to drink and party. So with her mom here what should I be doing to her?
 
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For gods sake, there's FAR too much drama here, and I don't even understand what the hell is going on, it's like an episode of home and away.

Take things back to basics, if she wants to play stupid games, LET HER. She's won the battle here, because you're thinking about her non-stop. You should have other/better things to be occupying your precious time.

Here's what I'd do:

1) Stop being a girl. Whatever games she's playing, well thats her perogative. I'm not going to partake in games.

2) When I DO see her, I'm the awesome guy that she liked/should like.

3) Don't get hammered when she's not drinking.

That girl that J told is her best friend. So clearly she cares or else she wouldn't be telling her best friend this.
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You obviously don't understand women. They LOVE to gossip. Doesn't matter wether they know you. You can have passed her in the street 3 years ago, and she'll still have an opinion on you.

Let it go. Find something else to do.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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WesCottII said:
For gods sake, there's FAR too much drama here, and I don't even understand what the hell is going on, it's like an episode of home and away.

Take things back to basics, if she wants to play stupid games, LET HER. She's won the battle here, because you're thinking about her non-stop. You should have other/better things to be occupying your precious time.

Here's what I'd do:

1) Stop being a girl. Whatever games she's playing, well thats her perogative. I'm not going to partake in games.

2) When I DO see her, I'm the awesome guy that she liked/should like.

3) Don't get hammered when she's not drinking.



You obviously don't understand women. They LOVE to gossip. Doesn't matter wether they know you. You can have passed her in the street 3 years ago, and she'll still have an opinion on you.

Let it go. Find something else to do.
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wescott is very wise.
 
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You are not a very smart guy.... You want the girl that made out with another guy IN FRONT OF YOU BACK????

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