"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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This still bugs me to this day...

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So this still bugs me to this day. It happened a little over a year ago I think (maybe more). I didn't know the same things as I do today (DJ-wise).

I was hanging out with my friend and ex-gf (who I hadn't seen in a while. We're on good terms with each other, I'm pretty sure she still likes me...of course there's always the possibility she might be keeping me in check by showing me signs of interest).

Anyway, I was hanging out with my friend, ex-gf and her now bf. They've been dating a while, and I just met this guy. We somehow get on the topic of her ex boyfriends (I was her first bf, but the guy, we'll call him Brian, she dated after me was a TOTAL afc). She says "Yeah, brian was the gay one", and totally unprovoked her boyfriend looks at me and says in a ****y way "Oh, I thought you were the gay one."

My friend (who also likes this girl but never got with her ;)) and her bf start laughing. I didn't even know what to do or say. I was a bit shocked and ready to brawl. I just met this guy like 5 minutes ago. Instead I just chuckled a bit because I didn't know what else to do and the conversation moved on.

What the hell should I have said/should have done? What would of been the DJ thing to do? I almost wanted to say something like "haha the only reason I'd ever turn gay would be because of your gf" but that would be stabbing at the wrong person.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Amog: "Oh, I thought you were the gay one."

You: "HaHa. Sorry to disappoint you, but maybe (ex-gf) can introduce you to Brian."

I'm just throwing that out there.

Convential PUA wisdom I think would be to agree with him, make a joke of it and turn it around on him. For example, "Yeah I'm soo gay. We should hook up sometime, maybe make it a threesome.." or something like that. This guy seems like a insecure azzhole. I personally would never hang out with an ex and her stupid new BF.
 
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Wow that was a year ago. I some how missed that. Well yeah move on. Next time isomething like that happens you'll know how to deal with it, but If you haven't been amogged in over a year you're doing good.
 
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bIg timer said:
the DJ thing would be to still be thinking about it a year on and post it on a forum
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...I'm assuming you are being sarcastic. I didn't mean I still think about it every day, I meant I still don't know what I should have done in that situation.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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There would be no point trying to get back at him or turn it into a pissing contest.
A good move might have been to just laugh at it, then turn to your ex-gf and say "He's quick, I'll give him that." and then just move on.
 
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Cremasta said:
There would be no point trying to get back at him or turn it into a pissing contest.
A good move might have been to just laugh at it, then turn to your ex-gf and say "He's quick, I'll give him that." and then just move on.
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Haha I have no intention of revenge or anything like that.

But yeah, I just wanted to describe what happened and see what your guys' responses would have been.
 
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I'm not letting some guy talk to me like that, especially if we just met. I'd shove him and then if he shoved back I'd proceed to pound his face in. Capiche?

Since it happened so long ago, though, forget about it.
 
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Her Boyfriend is a chump, plain and simple. In reality he hates the fact that a girl he is currently fvcking is hanging out with a guy she used to be fvcking. His jab at you was an act of frustration and rather then punch you in the face (which he really wants to do), he resort to a lame insult to someone who he barley knows. Now he feels a bit better about himself.

People like that are not even worth to reply to or hang around with (why are you hanging around your ex for? its this kind of sh1t and other drama that do come your way when you choose this route. If your ex girl was now a "friend" why the fvck wasn't she defending you? because her boyfriend is the number 1 priority which in a sense tells you she can never be a real friend to you). Next time someone you don't know says that sh1t to you as a joke (only your friends that you know can break your balls from time to time), just chuckle to yourself and ignore him completly like he ain't even there. He doesn't deserve any respect from you.
 
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The DJ thing to do would've been either to laugh it off (which you did) or to turn it around on him with some kind of joke like another poster said where you'd jokingly ask him if he wanted to hook up.

A DJ only fights when physical violence is the only way to defend himself.

That said I wouldn't of held it against ya if you pounded his face in like Incog would've done if he were in your position.

Sometimes the DJ position leaves much to be desired.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Lol at how many wusses there are on here.

I'm gonna let a guy I just met five mins ago gonna make cracks about me being gay? Are you out of your freaking minds??

There's a million ways I'd respond to that... all of them aggressive.

Anything else is just letting people walk all over you. (Remember: this wasn't some old buddy having a laugh, it was some guy he barely knew!)

(Your ex was no doubt thinking that yeah, she's with a "real man" now.. not some gay boy like you who lets people make fun of him and laughs along with it... rofl.)


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The reason he made such a crack is he sized you up and considered you a weak prik that he could get away with saying something like that to you. You must have come across as weak and wussyish in the five mins he knew you before he said it. I can tell you now, it would be very very unusual for someone that *I* just me to make such a crack about me... cos in sizing me up he just wouldn't have the impresssion that I'd ever tolerate something like that. But, if he did, I sure as hell wouldn't let him get away with it.
 
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HOLY SH!T

This happend a YEAR ago? And all he did was call you gay? lol wtf

Most people call each other gay all the time at least 500 times in a normal conversation.

If it really bothered you just b!tch slap him. Either way it really means nothing after all that time, they all forgot in the next 5 seconds.
 
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