This shook my reality!!

[HaniBABA]

I met this hot Persian girl about 6 months back, and we got the talking for a while... than for some reason she wanted to play matchmaker and hook me up with her girlfriend. She is also Persian, just a lot heavier! It turned out we hit it off well, that after we had sex... she wanted her gf to join for a 3-sum! So I went back to her and invited her to join us on a couple escapades... She agreed and we hit it off great and did a whole bunch of fun things together... than the sexy Persian girl takes me to the side and tells me I’m everything she is looking for in a man, that I fit all these qualities she’s looking for.. I just smiled and blew her off until the next couple times we all hooked up and had a 3-sum, than she started getting serious in her pursuance of me, and I’m like "I went to you first, and then you threw me to youre gf, and now u want me back?!" So I said fine, we dated a couple times together, yet every time we go back to the hotel she gets weird, saying that she wants to spend the rest of her life with me, have two boys and a girl... and I just didn’t know how to respond to it, because she's hot and she has a great career, so that fits what I’m looking for.. Beauty and brains.

Than all of a sudden she says I barely know you, I want to talk lets hold off sex and at the same time I don’t want you to sleep with anyone else! She kept forcing me to say I love her and the feelings mutual, but the oxygen to my brain is low and I’m just focused on her body… So now she says we are in a relationship, yet the minute I agree with her she turns stand offish and aloof and I wouldn’t hear from her for several weeks, than when I ask what’s going on, she says that I’m too clingy and its better if we stay friends, but as a constellation prize I usually hook back up with my exes!! This makes no sense and I wasn’t prepared for this, what kind of woman would use her honesty and sincerity that she wants a guy like me forever and the next minute says we’re friends, not even the friends with benefits as we had before.. Are all the hot ladies this crazy?! HELP!!

 

[Blue Phoenix]

The other guys are gonna kill me but,
BPD? lol.

Quick Attachment and Expression: “The Loser” has very shallow emotions and connections with others. One of the things that might attract you to “The Loser” is how quickly he or she says “I Love You” or wants to marry or commit to you. Typically, in less than a few weeks of dating you’ll hear that you’re the love of their life, they want to be with you forever, and they want to marry you. You’ll receive gifts, a variety of promises, and be showered with their attention and nice gestures. This is the “honeymoon phase” — where they catch you and convince you that they are the best thing that ever happened to you. Remember the business saying “If it’s too good to be true it probably is (too good to be true)!” You may be so overwhelmed by this display of instant attraction, instant commitment, and instant planning for the future that you’ll miss the major point — it doesn’t make sense!! The Mean and Sweet Cycle: “The Loser” cycles from mean to sweet and back again.

See the link in my 2nd signature
http://counsellingresource.com/quizzes/loser/index.html

 

[HaniBABA]

Interesting..

That is very interesting! I thought it was girlfriend competitiveness, where she sees I hit it off so well with her girlfriend and she says great things about me, that she wants it for herself like an Indian giver regardless of the expense of their relationship together?!
I agree with the controlling part, when she wants something... she uses the phrase "do it for me” ..It’s not anything I wouldn't mind doing it is just the way she uses that phrase annoys me!
I'm starting to notice the hotter ladies usually have the most emotional baggage and insecurities, yet the 7's and 8's have great personalities and healthy family connections... however they don't immediately grab our attention until we get to know them, than their inner beauty shines through!

 

[drak_ool]

I'm starting to notice the hotter ladies usually have the most emotional baggage and insecurities, yet the 7's and 8's have great personalities and healthy family connections... however they don't immediately grab our attention until we get to know them, than their inner beauty shines through!

Don't get stuck in that mindset! A lot of hot girls don't have any emotional problems, and a lot of busted girls do. Don't generalize from this one experience.

This girl is def a control freak and an attention wh0re. If you play the game right you can keep her as a **** buddy on the side, but you have to be mentally strong to not fall for her tricks. Do some reading on push and pull and see if you can apply it to your situation.

 

[DonGorgon]

she is a ho... hos like to F many random men and they they like emotional orgasms - that is what she gets when she perpetuates all those silly scenarios you talked about.. just let her go and try to F on random occasions...

 

[HaniBABA]

I like that!

I would very much like that! She is better off as a **** buddy since that's the furthest my interest demands from her.. she has nothing interesting to talk about besides all the men trying to hit on her. She used to just ask me for advice, now she wanted me all to herself! I agree its a high for her to get men always chasing her, from text messages, and blowing up her phone! I'm gonna try that push-pull, no sense in messing up a great thing if I could still keep it a casual thing when her emotions aren't bouncing all over the wall! :rockon: YOU GUYS ROCK!!

 

[starplayer]

She was after the validation that she could get you into a relationship if she wanted to. As soon as she knew she had you she lost interest.

Messed up I know, but learn from it.

 

[nismo-4]

She was after the validation that she could get you into a relationship if she wanted to. As soon as she knew she had you she lost interest.

Messed up I know, but learn from it.

Hell yea! This case is officially closed now. Rep for you!