"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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This sh!t literally makes me sick...

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This forum, the dating "game", "clubbin' ", online hook-up sites, having to regard every girl as potential "prey", sex, dating...the whole 9 yards.

I'm just tired of it. It's almost become a hassle to even think about women.

I'mma stop thinking about it (or try at least). Honestly, it wasnt' meant to be this much work, if it was, people wouldn't do it. :)
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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i felt the same way 2 yrs ago when i first found this site.... i stayed away for that long until now.....

i choose to read at my own risk and i am a little more wiser then i was back then so i decide what to read and what not to....
 

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LOL ... thats is why females join this site...to see how big of a deal some guys make out of such a simple thing as talking to women... But t hen again it's all our fault at times. We create that internal insecurity and those doubts that many of the guys here have, and that is why I have joined, to learn how to make you lives easier and realize how sometimes women can be straight up btches
 

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Originally posted by HeartlessBtch
We create that internal insecurity and those doubts that many of the guys here have
damn that habit is hard to break
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Originally posted by frivolousz21
its not this much work!

this is overblown!
Just talk to as many girls as you can and you quickly become comfortable with them. Even overly comfy, as I've been told I am.
 

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erm....

I personally dont see what the big deal is with talking to women... I see a girl I wanna talk to, I just go up to her and introduce myself... whats the big deal? fear of rejection? In 100 years time, do you think anyone will give a sh!t if you got rejected by this one chick once upon a time? no! If after you introduce yourself and have a little chat she doesn’t want to give you her number, then fine, who cares? not me:rolleyes:

P.S.: read my signature, makes a lot of sence, dont u think? :woo:


Laterz...
 

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Originally posted by squirrels
This forum, the dating "game", "clubbin' ", online hook-up sites, having to regard every girl as potential "prey", sex, dating...the whole 9 yards.

I'm just tired of it. It's almost become a hassle to even think about women.

I'mma stop thinking about it (or try at least). Honestly, it wasnt' meant to be this much work, if it was, people wouldn't do it. :)
Dude, I've been reading your posts for over 2 years. We've even given each other good advice in this time (I used to be Bugsquish). I watched as you learned more and more about women, game and DJing, giving some of the best advice in here at times. I know you have had some practical experience and it isn't all just theory.

But I have also noted that you seem to have a little bit of a split personality when it comes to gaming women. You can be confident and handle women naturally, but don't credit your sucesses enough. Instead you seem to be getting a little bitter of your failures and fearful of experiencing more failures - to the point where you are looking at emotional damage limitation. It's a downward spiral but one you can stop.

You are right to stop thinking about it. You're gonna depress yourself. You think about it too much and are so busy overanalysing that you don't have time to stop and enjoy it. Stop taking this all so seriously. Go out and enjoy your life, irrespective of women.

Staying on this site isn't doing you any real favours, you need to shut your computer down and get out into the real world. Socialise and expand you circle of friends because it is much easier to meet a girl this way and be taken seriously. Cold pickups definetely aren't for everyone.
 

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Originally posted by squirrels
Honestly, it wasnt' meant to be this much work, if it was, people wouldn't do it. :)
And yet most guys don't do it ...

... so it must be that much work, at least for newbies.

I hate to say it, but forcing yourself outside your comfort zone with no short-term benefits and only hope for long-term payoff sounds a lot like work to me.

I realized something; Life dangles carrots on sticks in front of us everywhere, but if the stick is too long, then the mule may settle for the grass growing at his feet, regardless of how much better the carrot would be ... especially if he's never eaten a carrot before.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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hellboy again u came strong?

how is ur love doing?


when im with her we are like Giddy little kids!

:)!

holla!:woo:
 

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Re: erm....

Originally posted by ~ªêQµïTª$~
I personally dont see what the big deal is with talking to women... I see a girl I wanna talk to, I just go up to her and introduce myself... whats the big deal? fear of rejection? In 100 years time, do you think anyone will give a sh!t if you got rejected by this one chick once upon a time? no! If after you introduce yourself and have a little chat she doesn’t want to give you her number, then fine, who cares? not me:rolleyes:

P.S.: read my signature, makes a lot of sence, dont u think? :woo:


Laterz...
That's the way it OUGHT to feel. But I think after being on this forum for almost two years, I'm reaching a point of saturation and I keep feeling like I have to have "something more" to show for it...even though I've come LIGHTYEARS from where I was before...and really that should be enough. Just to be better than AVERAGE with the ladies is a rare gift. :p

I find it hard to relax sometimes, that's all.
 

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Staying on this site isn't doing you any real favours, you need to shut your computer down and get out into the real world. Socialise and expand you circle of friends because it is much easier to meet a girl this way and be taken seriously. Cold pickups definetely aren't for everyone.
I don't like the whole meeting through friends thing as the only means of finding a date. Not like I have any friends (or at least friends who know hot girls), but I think you also need to try and meet women yourself too.

This is probably the biggest thing I'm having trouble with: getting new friends. This is even harder for me because most people just treat me as an acquaintance even after I try to open up to them more, etc. I must have at least 100 acquaintances at this school and used to have one or two geeky friends but they have annoyed me to no end lately so I just stopped hanging out with them.

Anyway, what's wrong with cold approaches? I see no other way for me to find women other than approaching them myself somewhere.
 

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Good for you Friv, I saw your thread. Me and Sous are like horny little animals ;) Did you see this?

Caldus, don't 'try to open up to them more', just concentrate more on having a good time with them. If they have a good time with you, they will want to spend more time with you.

Cold approaches are fine if that's what you wanna do, but don't expect a girl to take you seriously for long if you don't have friends. Friends are essential if you want to hold onto a hot woman for any period of time. The cooler your friends are the better. And they must respect you, because she will pay close attention to this. If you find you're having trouble with making friends you actually want to hang out with, then maybe you should brush up on your social skills a little, or just relax more.
 

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Originally posted by NewMan
Wanna maked out lives easier? then wear crotchless panties. Easy access :D
HAAHAHA ... how about we all run around naked :moon: ....we make your lives easier and you do the same in return....darn Adam and Eve
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Vienna in Austria or like some small city called vienna in the U.S.?
 

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city in the US... i wish it was Austria though
 

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Originally posted by squirrels
This forum, the dating "game", "clubbin' ", online hook-up sites, having to regard every girl as potential "prey", sex, dating...the whole 9 yards.

I'm just tired of it. It's almost become a hassle to even think about women.

I'mma stop thinking about it (or try at least). Honestly, it wasnt' meant to be this much work, if it was, people wouldn't do it. :)
I never refer to a woman/girl as "prey", "sex object" or even as "lover". I try to refer to them as humans, because

A) No matter WHAT, the girl you are with will find out if you refered to her, jokingly to your buds, as a piece of meat.

B) I'm not here to learn how to pick up 30 women in a week. I am here to learn when I find one that piques my interest, little tips to keep her interested (one of which most valuable so far is remaining mysterious).
 

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Re: Re: This sh!t literally makes me sick...

Originally posted by tobiashunter
I never refer to a woman/girl as "prey", "sex object" or even as "lover". I try to refer to them as humans, because

A) No matter WHAT, the girl you are with will find out if you refered to her, jokingly to your buds, as a piece of meat.

B) I'm not here to learn how to pick up 30 women in a week. I am here to learn when I find one that piques my interest, little tips to keep her interested (one of which most valuable so far is remaining mysterious).
:flowers:

Thank you! I wish everyone was here for the same purpose
 

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I'm with you on this too Squirrels. I'm learning that this seduction stuff is very destructive.

I'm comfortable just being myself now. It's working out for me and I feel good too.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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