"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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This post needs to go down in History.

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http://roissy.wordpress.com/2009/08/14/relationship-game-week-a-readers-journey/

I dont normally link in Rossy. But reading the transition of the guy in this article just made me smile from ear to ear.

Sums up perfectly how men should be acting in relationships, in my opinion.

Disclamer:

Im not feeding off Rossy, he writes good stuff and sometimes shi* stuff too, but this one needs to be spread - its one of his best.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I thought about posting this when I read it too. This is a great advice on what to do in LTR and marriage. If you don't hold the frame and constantly dodge the land mines that your woman throws at you, then you are toast because she will always test you and will eventually take over if she senses weakness.
 

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This stuff is GOLD. I've always learned best from live fire exercises. I can read this stuff and sleep like a baby knowing that practicing this is the path.
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The game BEGINS when you get into a committed relationship. If you do not maintain value and cultivate competition anxiety, you will be rewarded by having your balls handed to you on a platter.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Interesting article. I think Dave from Hawaii caught a lucky break (if we're to assume that staying in a marriage with his wife was desirable) in that he had seven years in of becoming supplicant to her and yet his turnaround had an effect, whereas I think in most cases it would be too late to reverse the damage.

Interesting article in that you could call it "game", but all he's really doing is taking the masculine role. When you ask a woman where she wants to go to eat, you're having HER take the lead and make the decision, and for all their feminism beliefs, women don't like being put in that position (unless, you know, they're really feminists who want control of the relationship or just plain control freaks which both explain why they'll hook up with submissive men. Real women without those issues eventually dump submissive men).

When the beta male takes the feminine position with a "What would YOU like to do, honey?", there's a void she has to fill, and does. She takes that masculine position he abdicated - which is not natural to her. That's why, like I said, it's uncomfortable for her. Here's a true story:

I recall a couple of years ago, some girl I dated, she starts telling me ideas of what we could do on our next date. I told her I already had a plan in mind and that's what we were going to do. Now get this - she says something like, "Whew! I'm glad. I'd really rather not have to plan anything. The last couple of guys I dated I had to plan everything."
 

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Excellent brake down Mr Me.

Maybe the game in some context is nothing more then training men to find the ball sack?! So to speak.

SXS to pick out what things where great would take too long, I cant be fuc*ed - It is clear what is going on without nit-picking random quotes and actions.
 
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