This one is a doozy?? Advice!!!

[BENZ_GREY]

So Fellas, I met this girl at the club about two weeks ago and we totally hit it off. conversation was great and we exchanged numbers, texted and told her i wanted to take her to one of my favorite restaurants (reference to conversation we had when i met her) any way we meet up and the date goes well or so i thought because we both said we wanted to meet again. 2nd meet we go to a comedy club and although short, we talked and kissed. She invites me to her house and cooks for me ( good cook) and I'm like this couldn't be going better. We go to her couch and start watching this movie and cuddling. we kissed a little but then she all of a sudden starts getting cold and goes into this outburst of how she's not looking for anything, she has a lot going on and might be going celibant. Well by that time I'm turned off, and tell her that I understand but don't leave immediately ( not to come off as an *******). She still responds to me when i pull her close but nothing but closed lip kisses.Finally I leave.

Next few days the texting has gone cold, i even called her once and she didnt pick up.

I really want to bang this chick, I mean I do like her but more sexually than anything. Advice and comments please!!

 

[logicallefty]

Did she check her phone anytime in there? Her bad boy ex may have texted her and told her he was just released from prison, so her \|/ tingle pointer cl|t moved from your direction towards his.

Or, did you say anything AFC that made you seem like a nice guy?

 

[BENZ_GREY]

Not while i was there. but she was dumped by some dude about 3 weeks before i met her. As for AFC, I don't think so, I think I'm a nice guy not a push over but not an ******* either. It always works for me.

 

[logicallefty]

Did you say ANYTHING at all about a possibility of a LTR with her?

 

[BENZ_GREY]

Not at all. I never said anything about even her becoming my girlfriend.

 

[BENZ_GREY]

I just really don't know how to play it from here.

 

[El Payaso]

You should have either made a move to fvck her despite her saying other wise or just said "I understand" and calmly walked away. Deleted her number and moved on.

Best thing at this point is to still delete her number and move on. Sounds like the damaged type. What she did was a power play and she knows it. She had you wrapped around her little finger if you keep contacting her or responding to her. Move on.

 

[pyros]

Did she check her phone anytime in there? Her bad boy ex may have texted her and told her he was just released from prison, so her \|/ tingle pointer cl|t moved from your direction towards his.

Or, did you say anything AFC that made you seem like a nice guy?

HAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!! LMAO!
what a great and creative thought! ex just relased from prison! haha.

Well, joking apart, something similar could have happened.

Similar thing happened to me once, I went on five dates with a chick, banged her on the fourth, she was all affectionate etc, then on the fifth, she was ice cold, and always checking her cellphone and texting some dude in front of me.

Anyway, she could also have felt that you were doing couple's stuff (cuddling etc) and she got scared, cause she just wanted to bang someone to forget about her ex or something.

 

[Bible_Belt]

I'm thinking herpes outbreak.

 

[BENZ_GREY]

Thank Guys..I know the reasonable move would be to ditch this chick..but the explorer in me ( or maybe the one in my pants) still wants to give this a try. any suggestions?

 

[PokerStar]

its not the explorer in you. its the AFC in you that makes you want to try again.

Leave it for now. She will contact you if she wants to hook up.

But if you really want to try again (which i suggest you shouldnt) give her a call a couple of weeks from now.

 

[logicallefty]

Bad rep for the OP ALREADY? Come on fellas its his first post. Cut the man some slack. At least he is here.

 

[pyros]

So Fellas, I met this girl at the club about two weeks ago and we totally hit it off. conversation was great and we exchanged numbers, texted and told her i wanted to take her to one of my favorite restaurants (reference to conversation we had when i met her) any way we meet up and the date goes well or so i thought because we both said we wanted to meet again. 2nd meet we go to a comedy club and although short, we talked and kissed. She invites me to her house and cooks for me ( good cook) and I'm like this couldn't be going better. We go to her couch and start watching this movie and cuddling. we kissed a little but then she all of a sudden starts getting cold and goes into this outburst of how she's not looking for anything, she has a lot going on and might be going celibant. Well by that time I'm turned off, and tell her that I understand but don't leave immediately ( not to come off as an *******). She still responds to me when i pull her close but nothing but closed lip kisses.Finally I leave.

Next few days the texting has gone cold, i even called her once and she didnt pick up.

I really want to bang this chick, I mean I do like her but more sexually than anything. Advice and comments please!!

there is no secret strategy, it is always the same pattern:

wait three or four days (not weeks!), ask her out, do something fun, escalate as much as you can.

If she is not into you, ditch her.

P.S.
Probably she is not into you anymore cause she did not pick up the phone and she did not contact you neither, so I would not have any hopes, but you can try it one last time.

 

[The_411]

Let it go. There's nothing you can do at this point. And more to the point I'm sure you should be having anything to do with this girl anyway as something is rotten in Denmark.

Either you didn't tell us something or this girl is cuckoo. A girl inviting you over and cooking for you is an invitation for sex. So, for her to have that bizarre meltdown either means she's cray cray, or she got contacted by the guy who dumped her while you were over.

 

[hockeyfreak79]

Your favorite resturant on 1st date? Try skipping dinner dates until they put out some. Did you pay for both comdey club & dinner? Any time a broad has made me dinner @ her place it's high % @ getting some action. Something turned her off, could be a million things. Brush it off man & move on. Stop liking a broad until you have banged her atleast 5x-10x then ask yourself if you like her.

 

[BENZ_GREY]

Let it go. There's nothing you can do at this point. And more to the point I'm sure you should be having anything to do with this girl anyway as something is rotten in Denmark.

Either you didn't tell us something or this girl is cuckoo. A girl inviting you over and cooking for you is an invitation for sex. So, for her to have that bizarre meltdown either means she's cray cray, or she got contacted by the guy who dumped her while you were over.

I thought I had that bagged but apparently not.. well I'll give it one more high level shot and then I'm out..keep ya'll posted

 

[BENZ_GREY]

Case closed!!

Hey Fellas, so an update as promised. I let the chick breathe for 2 days, then texted her, to my surprise she went for it. We went out and had a good time, heavy make out session which I cut short as things were getting hotter, told her that I'd see her soon. Didn't hear from her the following day, didn't text her neither(starting to think that I had screwed up once again) but the next day the texts came flooding definitely HI stuff. Long story short met up with her yesterday and was balls deep in that all night.

Lessons learned: try and stay true to yourself. If a chick agrees to go out with you, there's something she digs and there's no need to put on some front. If she plays hard to get stay cool, don't get needy or start playing her game, stay stable and persistent ( not chasing). Alright case closed and onto the next one!!

 

[marmel75]

"I'm not looking for anything right now" equals "I am DTF but want it to be casual and not have you as my boyfriend".

You should have told her it was cool and you didn't need anything serious either and you just liked spending time with her, then escalated and laid her @ss out...

Basically she was green lighting you to be a FWB and you kinda screwed it up by not doing anything or "being put off". Put off for what? That she just wanted to f*ck and not have any strings attached?

 

[BENZ_GREY]

"I'm not looking for anything right now" equals "I am DTF but want it to be casual and not have you as my boyfriend".

You should have told her it was cool and you didn't need anything serious either and you just liked spending time with her, then escalated and laid her @ss out...

Basically she was green lighting you to be a FWB and you kinda screwed it up by not doing anything or "being put off". Put off for what? That she just wanted to f*ck and not have any strings attached?

Yeah I bet "I'm going celibate" also mean DTF. Read the OM in its entirety.

 

[marmel75]

Yeah I bet "I'm going celibate" also mean DTF. Read the OM in its entirety.

Yes, it sounds like the woman who tells you "We aren't having sex tonight" before going home with you and f*cking you an hour later...