You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I actually enjoy pursuing girls like that... I mean... the typical girl is no fun to get, all you do is it on her, and there u go, she's yours. Girls like this are a challenge, and I like challenges, it add’s a bit of "spice" to the "game". One thing that you must just avoid, is ONLY pursuing THAT girl. You need to be pursuing other women at the same time. That is also I am very against the whole "next her" bullsh!t.. I mean... some chicks play hard to get, some chicks need a little more time before they open their legs for you... so? why just "next" them? .. I say KEEP THEM AROUND, give them a LITTLE bit of your time here and there and they WILL "break" sooner or later... and while she gets to that point, you are also macking a whole bunch of other women. She doesn’t affect your "game", all she does is take up a LITTLE bit of your time once in a while, and eventually the girl that half of you would "next", WOULD have sex with you.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.