This might sound like a silly question, but how do you make new friends?

[Shivastorm_88]

I believe that one of the reason why I have a hard time getting over my ex is this: She was a very smart person that challenged me intellectually. However, when I look at my friends, most of them are idiots. I seriously think I only have one smart friend, out of all of them.

Now don't get me wrong, my friends are fun to hang out with (although another problem is, none of them are exactly party animals, nor good with the ladies). I simply wish I could have more intellectual friends.

I obviously had high hopes from my Masters program, but then again, I'm quite young (25) and the age average is about 35-40

 

[TheException]

One question I pose to you, is why do you want new friends? Are you trying to have better friends because it will make you more happy?

Look, friends are nice....but they will disappoint too just like everyone else. They are human. Learn to not rely on other people for your happiness or to be "challenged intelligently".....download an app or start reading philosophy. That being said....your right this is a silly question.....you make new friends by talking to new people and being a "cool guy".

 

[FairShake]

Now don't get me wrong, my friends are fun to hang out with (although another problem is, none of them are exactly party animals, nor good with the ladies). I simply wish I could have more intellectual friends.

I obviously had high hopes from my Masters program, but then again, I'm quite young (25) and the age average is about 35-40

If your friends are fun to hang out with that's pretty much all that matters. Don't ditch them because they don't party or aren't intellectual. Find a new group that parties more. Or reads more. I'd look for party animals in bars near colleges or in hip parts of town and intellectuals in internet meet up groups. Talk with them, be bold and don't worry about looking awkward too much, and find a way in ingratiate yourself by buying drinks, throwing a party, networking with mutual interests, etc. Then, as not to be a d!ck, mix your new friends with your old friends.

And, fwiw, most intellectual people aren't known for being partiers.

 

[om1xr]

It's really simple: Be a Value Giver!

 

[Bible_Belt]

Friends come from shared interests and activities.

 

[JoeMarron]

Lol I saw this question mentioned somewhere else "How do you get a guys number without looking gay?" Anyways, I think that's one of the reasons why a lot of dudes have trouble getting over an ex. Females have an emotional support system, men are lacking in that department. I can't help you with this one. Besides my girl my social circle is practically nonexistent. Feels bad man, although I'm too lazy to do what it'll take to build up my social circle.

Om1xr made a good point though. People like people who give value. Another bit of good advice that I've heard on this topic is to act like a mayor wherever you go. A mayor/senator/president etc. is always greeting and being friendly with everyone he meets. When you pass around good feelings like that, everyone is more prone to liking you and when other people see that you're well liked, they'll want to get to know you as well. Then females will see how well liked you are and get wet over you superior social status. Now you have a horde of males and females flocking to you, the cycle feeds itself. Finally, when in doubt consult the internet. I'm sure there's plenty of intellectual forums that you could involve yourself in. Socializing over a computer screen is better than not socializing at all.