"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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This makes no sense

Glycerine2

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Man I just don't get it. I got game and I'm very good looking, yet the chicks are all over my friends, who are a. younger, b. not as good looking, c. have little or no game. I really don't understand. And don't say "It's not your friend's problem, it's yours." I honestly can't think of what I'm doing wrong, or why this is a problem to begin with. My one friend is with this hot ass chick and I wouldn't even consider him "attractive". The only thing I can think of is that I've only known most of them for like a year. They've all known each other for like 6. I don't know what else it can be. And I don't think it's an intimidation factor either.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Iamnotacrook

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Do you think that your charming good looks are enough to sway years of shared secrets and getting to know exactly what they need to hear? They hardly know you... you hardly know them... You are talking about the surface, they know each other to the core. Thus, the reason they have the "edge" is because you haven't shared secrets, you haven't been told secrets. You haven't withstood the test of time. That's about it.
 

Glycerine2

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Let me tell you something, I really hope that's it.

Cuz if it ain't, I'm clueless.
 

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Originally posted by Glycerine2
I got game and [they] have little or no game. I really don't understand.
Let me get this straight. Your problem is that even though you have more game, they still have more game?

I think there must be something they're donig differently, or maybe tehre's some small flaw in the way you communicate. Like slanting your head to the side while talking, or staring at their boobs subconsciously. It's all subconscious, so the only way to figure it out is to have someone you really really trust or a dating coach examine the way you converse with them.
 

Glycerine2

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Well people in my group think I'm a major jackass. I do tend to start things with people, but how would that effect the way a girl feels about you emotionally? Girls like confidence
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Zonder

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maybe you're not doing it right

I have no reply but the obvious, which you've obviously figured out on your own. Maybe if you have good looks chicks expect you to act more mature and be less of a jerk. Some people act like jackasses out of insecurity too. Maybe they take it this way.
 

sstype

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if you are good looking and a jackass, bad combination.


let the average to ugly guys use their witty personalities and "jackass" attitudes to get the women, because that is all they have working for them.

you have your good looks, so tone down your ****iness, otherwise you will come off as a tool
 

joekerr31

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in all likelihood they think you are gay. perhaps not openly gay but harboring homoerotic feelings.

think about it. a sexy stud like you, the kind of guy every woman wants, yet none of them are even pursuing the possibility even the slightest?

they probably see you acting like a jackass as you trying to cover up the fact that you want the big sausage.

a warm blooded woman can't help but be attracted to an attractive guy, secrets or no secrets. In fact, not being a part of their group for 6 years makes you a novelty. the women should all be fighting over each other to be the first to scratch below the surface and see the real you.

So i think you need to seriously consider the fact that they think you like to suck the salomi. They won't tell you this to your face, because they probably think that you are in deep denial.

but there's a 99% chance that they think you want to work at the fudge factory as a packer.

J
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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DJohnson

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Takes more than looks amigo

It takes alot more than looks. Ask yourself what can vibe you send off. If you were someone else, and you met yourslef, what would you think of..yourself:)

Let me explain. Do you make people feel comfortable? Are you fun? Do you offer anything, or are you just a good looking leech using them for entertainment. What value do you bring?

Also do you have a sexual vibe? Do women know that you are sexually available in the way you act and speak?

If you have looks, friends, etc, then what is missing is your vibe.
 

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The only things you need are some looks and game.

Aparently you have the looks so your game must suck. You may not think this but clearly that has to be the problem. How you look has very little to do with your success with women...

What exactly is the part of your game that sucks - that you'll have to figure out.
 

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Find some new girls that none of you know, and see how you go.. If things go well, its just that those ones know your friends longer, if things don't go well then maybe you do have a problem with the way you act..
 
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