This made me mad !

[Jsick7x]

This was a few months ago, but I still do not know what to do!

Before summer I met this girl Jen who happened to like me but she didn't want to go out with me because she has traveling basketball June and July so we would have no time to hang out.
And at night I would txt her, saying stuff like "I love you" and she would say those things back. Basically convincing me that we would have a relationship And I asked her "When do you think we can go out?" And she said "When basketball is over". So recently she hasn't been txting me so I asked her friend who is on her bball team that told me she would talk to her for me and she said :

heyy jason. okay i talked to her and she said that she did something stupid and her parents took her phone or something. so she doesnt have it. also i talked to her about liking you. and if she would want to go out with you and stuff and she said that she just wants to be friends because she is so busy and just sees you guys as more of friends instead of bf and gf. ya kno?? but yeahh i just wanted to let you know that and stuff.

What bull****! After all the **** she told me about how she loves me and how she wants to go out with me and then she says that!!! WTF!!!!!!! God ****ing dammit (lots of bad words). I can't stop dreaming about her, every time I see her it makes me sick to my stomach.
What should I do?

I saw her today at registration and she smiled at me and said hi, so I smiled back.

 

[HandyAndy]

I would txt her, saying stuff like "I love you"

Desperate and needy = friend zone

 

[Jsick7x]

Lol no it was fun its something I do lol, not desperation I think >_>

But that makes a lot and I mean A LOT of sense there Handy thank you

 

[noodle]

You shouldn't have wrote all those texts saying "I love you." and stuff like that.

Sure the girls will say them back to you (they are obliged to), but that means nothing.

I once knew a guy that smothered his gf with comments like that on nexopia.com with those stupid pictures of a guy and a girl on a beach or on a dock looking at a sunset and cheesy **** like that.

Stuff like "Baby, forever is not enough. I want to be with you always"
or "I love you. I don't know what i'd do without you."

hehe, me and my gf had a good laugh looking at the gay stuff they said to each other. And my gf was like "why don't you ever say that kind of stuff to ME?!"
My response..."I'm not a faggot. "
She replied "hehe, "

But yea back on point, he got dumped...BADLY. He became soooo clingy to her (desperation) that she couldn't take it. I mean for god's sake this guy wrote her a fricken song on nex and wanted to MARRY her. They are both 16 btw.

So yea, don't be so desperate asking "when are we gonna go out?".
That gives her all the power and makes you the little b!tch she controls.
And you ain't nobody's b!tch are you? Your a DJ. And a DJ makes his own decisions, decides when things escalate. He doesn't ask for permission to kiss a girl, he waits for the moment and just does it. Keep that mindset bro.

Good luck, we'll be here for you.

 

[jeffthechef]

both posts above me already said it..
desperation...you should try keeping more than one girl in mind..it may seem impossible at first but once you think about all the girls you know..you're bound to find more that appeal to you