"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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"This is very serious business!"

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Matthew Lyon

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As we get older, we tend to think:

"I'm getting older. I must take things with women more serious. After all, life is very serious business."
"I should wait 3 days to call her and then offer to take her out on a really nice date if she answers."
"I need to dress really nice all the time and work more on my approaches."
"If she says this one thing, then I'll say this."
"I'm not sure how to ask her out, so I'll think of something clever to say."
"I'm afraid to ask her out. She may reject me."

Does this sound familiar or do you know someone suffering from these kinds of thoughts?

If Yes, then you need to relax. Success with women comes when you stop being so serious and stop living in your head. Live more in the present moment. Take more risk. Life is supposed to be enjoyed.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Nicely said

"The brave don't live forever, but the cautious don't live at all"
 
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I NEVER thought those things. Especially not since I've been growing older. In fact, as I've been growing older, I've becoming more relaxed, laid back and open to people.

You wrote in "we" form, I think you're better off writing in "you" form as you're the one thinking those. Mostly, people who get more mature don't have those thoughts because they've learnt through experience that thinking those things don't help.

Why would you prepare a whole conversation in case a girl says a certain thing? Why would you become more anxious of asking someone out as you get older? Because all the sudden, you grow insecure as you mature? My experience shows the opposite, people become less anxious about rejection because they've learnt to place it in perspective.
 
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