"This is very serious business!"

[Matthew Lyon]

As we get older, we tend to think:

"I'm getting older. I must take things with women more serious. After all, life is very serious business."
"I should wait 3 days to call her and then offer to take her out on a really nice date if she answers."
"I need to dress really nice all the time and work more on my approaches."
"If she says this one thing, then I'll say this."
"I'm not sure how to ask her out, so I'll think of something clever to say."
"I'm afraid to ask her out. She may reject me."

Does this sound familiar or do you know someone suffering from these kinds of thoughts?

If Yes, then you need to relax. Success with women comes when you stop being so serious and stop living in your head. Live more in the present moment. Take more risk. Life is supposed to be enjoyed.

 

[Gam]

Nicely said

"The brave don't live forever, but the cautious don't live at all"

 

[SandHawk]

I NEVER thought those things. Especially not since I've been growing older. In fact, as I've been growing older, I've becoming more relaxed, laid back and open to people.

You wrote in "we" form, I think you're better off writing in "you" form as you're the one thinking those. Mostly, people who get more mature don't have those thoughts because they've learnt through experience that thinking those things don't help.

Why would you prepare a whole conversation in case a girl says a certain thing? Why would you become more anxious of asking someone out as you get older? Because all the sudden, you grow insecure as you mature? My experience shows the opposite, people become less anxious about rejection because they've learnt to place it in perspective.