"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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This is unfamiliar territory for me.

bish0p

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I met this 19 year old and my current girl through work earlier this year. They seemed like friends at first because they came together and they stuck by each other, but they weren’t. I was attracted to both of them, but I went after my current girl a little more because she’s smaller and closer to my age.

Well, I was able to separate them by telling the other one each negative thing the other girl said about the other. They no longer talk anymore. So, I’ve been off and on with the 19 year old (hitting on her and ignoring her because she annoys me a bit) and I hadn’t seen her in almost a month until today when she came into work (she is only on-call when we are short on other staff). Anyways, we drove to the beach today (me, her, and a senior staff member) and while we were in the water, I got extremely physical with the girl. No kissing or anything, but pulling her legs around my waist and holding her waist and picking her up. She saw me staring at her tits and kept laughing and telling me to stop. Anyways, I’ve been sexually flirtatious (verbally and physically) with her since I’ve known her and I know she’s into me….the problem is, she knows the other girl is my girlfriend and so she is VERY cautious with me.

Today, I asked her if she thought that I was going to just use her and she replied:
“Lol a lot of people want to **** me just to see how good I am and it’s even more ****ed up when you have a girlfriend.”

I already responded to this, …so I’m not looking for a response. I just need some advice on how to deal with this crap she keeps throwing at me. She won’t tell me she likes me even though I keep telling her that she does (she doesn’t deny or confirm) and she won’t send me pics of her tits and she’s just overall be a hard ass. Anyways, I feel kinda bad now after receiving that reply because it’s true, I just want to fvck her and nothing more. I don’t care how good she is though, she just turns me on.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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boomerick

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Sounds to me like she's on the edge of her seat waiting for you to take charge (lead her) and make your move.

bishOp wrote:

Today, I asked her if she thought that I was going to just use her and she replied:
“Lol a lot of people want to **** me just to see how good I am and it’s even more ****ed up when you have a girlfriend.”

Right then I'd have leaned in and said, "Lets see how f*cked up it can be" and then kissed her.

It's what she want's or she wouldn't be flirtin' around with you.

Plus, she's directly competeing against your girl for you.

However if you don't move on her soon she will take it as a rejection, after all she is giving you the green light in her mind.

This will make her a little insecure and she will suddenly go cold.

Strike while the iron's hot, troop !!!!

Over and Out.
 

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She wants you to fck her dude..I bet she was super wet while you were flirting with her. But ultimately it is up to you whether you want to fck her or not.. Honestly all you gotta do is make the move and i'm sure it'll happen, but if you take forever to make it she isn't going to respond well, like boomerick said "you gotta strike while the iron's hot" if not she'll just get another guy... But like i said it's up to you if you want to or not.
 
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