This is tearing me up!

[Bigg Boss]

I think it's official. I know yall will tell me to drop this girl. She hasn't done anything wrong, it was really my fault. Our relationship just got really boring because basically, I hardly go anywhere with her. Except the movies, mall (twice), and her house. And I know that the wack day we had together on saturday was terrible.

Now I just know that she wants to break up with me. But at the same time, she knows the potential (or knew the potential) of the relationship, and she can't believe how it's turning out.

Right now I'm trying to SAVE the relationship. Call me a non-DJ if you want, I wasn't really looking forward to cycling through girls every week and such. Especially when I found one that really has alot in common with me.

The thing is, I'm always thinking FOR her. Like, I would take her out to lunch, then a park or somethin (We've never done anything cept movies and mall so that'd be pretty different), but for some reason I think she wouldn't be to excited about spending another day with me. Should I do it anyway? Because to me it seems AFCish to assume that she doesn't want to do anything with me anymore.

I feel dumb even posting this. It's just tearing me up. This relationship is good, I'm just making it BORING. <-------------- But what do I do then to get her to happy again?

 

[NSUballer]

Give her some space. Go chill wit ya boys. Go places without HER. Have your OWN life and in turn lets her have her own life. Relationships usually turn sour when you smother each other because then you look at the other person and think well i know everything there is to know about them so now what? Except if your like my brother and find someone thats just as codependent as you are so you would never break up with each other no matter what. I actually got him to break up with his GF but he got back wit her the same night.

 

[Krassus]

If you KNOW that she wants to break up... this is all you need to know. Walk.

 

[WC2]

I agree. Take a break for a week or so and go hang out with your boys. Then drop her a line and ask her to do something original. Ask her if she wants to go for a walk. Something new, something that might actually make her think that you've got something interesting about you. If she says no, take it in stride and tell her you'll see her around. NEXT.

 

[Pink]

You're afraid she'll end things because you have an AFC mindset. But that's understandable.

You still need to drop a CnF here and there, keep her on her toes... going to movies, malls... doesn't matter what you do, why is she bored... it's doesn't have to do with the activity, but what goes on during that time... think about it.

 

[mountain]

My man, you have one-itis like a mofo. You NEED to put the effort into dating some other women. Go to the gym, get some sort of interest so you don't have as much time to fixate on her. It's gonna burn in the chest for a while, but that burn is personal growth. Don't talk to her for a while, let her get back to you.

 

[Jariel]

How often do you see her? If it's more than twice a week, try to see her less...even just once a week, but make those times enjoyable and leave her wanting more!

You need to focus on having fun instead of pleasing her. Do some fun activities, tease her, tickle her, feel her up in public when no one is looking, kiss her passionately and out of the blue! A big mistake AFCs make when they eventually land a girlfriend is holding back too much and feeling like they need permission to touch her. She then feels a lack of intimacy and excitement, which may account for things being boring.

Take the lead and show her some passion!