ok,im having the afc side of me come out,where i feel like the situation with the girl i like is pointless,and i just wanna call her and ask if she wants to hang out,and am getting extemely jealous of some of the comments and attention she is paying other guys on her myspace, how to combat feeling this way? and no,nexting her wont work,just need to control my emotions again, y does my confidence and will,go up and down every now and then although nothing has changed in the situation with her? i just like get frustrated with the situation as i wanna go out with her
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Wait..? How is it AFC to call her up to do something?
It sounds way more AFC what your doing now. Stalking on myspace and waiting till the next time you see her.
Relax and then ask her out or something. If she says no a few times I'd take that as a NEXT.
It sounds way more AFC what your doing now. Stalking on myspace and waiting till the next time you see her.
Relax and then ask her out or something. If she says no a few times I'd take that as a NEXT.
i have no problem asking her to hang out etc perfectly fine,except i dont wanna,i know its not the right thing to do,as we hung out few days back and talk everyday there abouts.
just whenever i get frustrated with the situation,and the fact we arnet going out yet i lose confidence and resort to reading her myspace and listenin to push over music i.e-james blunt,u know the usual afc ways,and i see other guys comments etc and get jealous that she's giving them attention,i want a few days of not talking to her,yet find it hard to resist as she is on msn everyday
just whenever i get frustrated with the situation,and the fact we arnet going out yet i lose confidence and resort to reading her myspace and listenin to push over music i.e-james blunt,u know the usual afc ways,and i see other guys comments etc and get jealous that she's giving them attention,i want a few days of not talking to her,yet find it hard to resist as she is on msn everyday
Tomatoes
Master Don Juan
Listen to Rocket- Bruand Reynolds
Then go out with her....Party....cinema....anything....dont just "hang out". Its fun but not really very eventful.
Plus you need to act on your feelings....If she turns you down.....Nexting is where you HAVE to look. Even if you dont want too.
Sarge On!
Then go out with her....Party....cinema....anything....dont just "hang out". Its fun but not really very eventful.
Plus you need to act on your feelings....If she turns you down.....Nexting is where you HAVE to look. Even if you dont want too.
Sarge On!
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Treat her like you would treat your guy friends, don't worship the p#ssy.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
thats the thing,i dont worship her that she knows of,i rarley if ever compliment,i demonstate higher value,pretty much i "play" the situation with her as much as ya could,and have done alright so far,gotten pretty close,next chance for a 1st kiss im taking it,and i know perfect oportunity.. when she stays overnight with me after a night of drinking,at the place i will be minding,im gonna try for a 1st kiss,beside that get very little chance to hang out-movies etc,cause its not normally the 2 of us alone,i'll save my move until we spend the night together at the place im minding.............
i try my up most best,never to be an afc again,i keep the higher value in all aspects of my life.
ive never cracked and she's seen my 'wussy' side,always played it cool,but sometimes ya cant help thinking bout em etc how do u get over it? and make sure u dont do anything afc while ur in ur weak moment,thats when ya normally get the urge to txt saying how much u like her and all haha,as any former afc's would know.geez been there. never again
i try my up most best,never to be an afc again,i keep the higher value in all aspects of my life.
ive never cracked and she's seen my 'wussy' side,always played it cool,but sometimes ya cant help thinking bout em etc how do u get over it? and make sure u dont do anything afc while ur in ur weak moment,thats when ya normally get the urge to txt saying how much u like her and all haha,as any former afc's would know.geez been there. never again
Here's a good question - what is a girl doing when she flirts with a lot of other guys on the net - and what do you do about it?ye yeah said:
My guess is she's spinning plates - and you're just one of them.
Solution? Make her just one of yours, I guess. Never give more to a girl than she is to you. And that definitely includes YOUR time & attention!
How is that when you get the urge to pee you don't just automatically pee your pants. Guess a dumb example, but my point - the AFC behaviour is kinda like the urge to pee your pants. It comes to all us - but in time we learn to "hold it" until the right time.
Hope that makes some sense - yes you can adapt your behaviour but it is perfectly normal to have the urge to pee from time to time.
Hope that makes some sense - yes you can adapt your behaviour but it is perfectly normal to have the urge to pee from time to time.