"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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So this fvcken hb trainer at my gym smh

We make eye contact smiles at me I slightly smile back

A few moments later I'm at the squat rack doing deadlifts
I was on my heavy sets of 255x3 I was barely done doing
A set so I seat down, next thing you know she passes by
And straight looks at me again with a huge smile on her face again
That sh!t caught me of guard cuz I was super exhausted from that set and
The last thing on my mind was smiling whatsoever lol

I'm getting ready for my next set, b!tch passes by she gos up
the stairs witch are infront of me while she was going up the
stairs she straight looks at me again while deadlifting
and and I kinda slightly look at her while she's going up
The stairs cuz I notice someone looking and yes it was her again she then
Does this sarcastic ''wow''(sigh language) at me with a dumb look on her face

Lmfao that sh!tt was weird af man haha Wtf I was literally laughing after.

Yes it was obvious shhe felt insecure and probably bad too cuz I didn't smiled back Lmfao... But watt she did with the wow sh!t was pathetic she was like telling me ''dude u ain't impressing nobody'' Lmfaoo..

I'm ma go up to her and say hi or something, what do u guys suggest I do?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Next time, ask if she can spot your 'clean and jerk'. When she tries to sue for harassment, you respond with 'You're giving yourself way too much credit, sweetheart, I was talking about lifting'.

Or, you end up getting laid. Boom.
 

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the problem is you are doing deadlifts in the SQUAT RACK YOU IDIOT

and if you deadlift 255, what do you squat? 100lbs?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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chath said:
the problem is you are doing deadlifts in the SQUAT RACK YOU IDIOT

and if you deadlift 255, what do you squat? 100lbs?
LOL....so true.
 

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chath said:
the problem is you are doing deadlifts in the SQUAT RACK YOU IDIOT

and if you deadlift 255, what do you squat? 100lbs?
The squat rack is a squat/deadlift area

No I squat 235 max considering I'm only 149lbs
I'm on my first bulk ;)
 

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Stop fretting man. She didn't even say anything. Next time OF COURSE go and say hi. Ask her to comment on your form or whatever.

And don't be butthurt over what you think was her insulting you. Don't even bring it up. Act as if nothing happened. This sh!t doesn't touch you, right? Are you this big tough guy who gets shot down by what was "maybe a sarcastic comment"?
 

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im not racist or anything but ill let ya know that this chick is black nothing wrong with that i love black woman shes cute nice body a solid 8, btw shes a trainer there

anyways this has gone up to creep level status like seriously this chicks hamster is burning LOL

after this sh!tt happen the next day she was at the front desk i went in pass through there and rightnow im rockin a kinda long preppy lookin hair lol i know it sounds gay but when i was going in she asks the front desk girl ''have you seein hes hair'' and she tells her ''yeah it looks good on him'' i slightly look at her turn away and just walk by.. so obvious she was talking about me cuz the other chick was looking at me sick lmfao.. and the black chick just stays quiet... never has this chick being at the front desk she has no reason to be there so fvcken obvious she was there cuz she probably wanted to get a good look at me or something i dont know lol after this she has never gone up to the front desk ahhahahahaha

after this the next day im working out my back and she passes by from far away and wtf i notice her from the corner of my eye i didnt turn to look at her i just glanced real quick and wtf she was just there straight looking at me staring with a really deep stare for like 15 seconds that sh!tt was fvckeen creepy man LOL i have never had a girl do this type of sh!tt lmfao..

other times she would walk by were im working she would just quickly glance though and go on her way
but man
this chick either feels some how ''rejected cuz i didnt smile back at her''
made her feel insecure.
is trying to get my attention for some type of approval or reaction from me.

either way i was planning on talking to her but since she started being a fvcken creep id just rather see watt she does next LOL
 

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just grow a pair and approach her already.

are we talking 235 lbs or kilos here?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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sylvester the cat said:
just grow a pair and approach her already.

are we talking 235 lbs or kilos here?
Lbs bro..

Talking to her ain't the problem lol ...
 

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Jair213 said:
Lbs bro..

Talking to her ain't the problem lol ...
are you including the 20kg bar in the 235 lbs?

so go talk to her.
 
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