This is my only blockade.

[Skyline]

Be bold and direct.

This is just me ranting but I'm getting really sick of this. The amount of approach anxiety I have is ridiculous. If its not in a socially acceptable(dances,bars, etc) place I just choke completely. On school campus, its arguably the worst. I don't know why and I don't care at this point. All I have to do is be bold and direct. Fvck social circles, who cares if she's in my class, who cares if I'm judged, fvck wingmans, this is for me. Make my intentions clear from the get go and see what happens there. I know i have the moves, I know I have the confidence, I know I can control my emotions, I just need that god damn approach.

I know girls notice me, I know some are interested, I know all these things about myself and woman but I lack the approach in ANY situation. I just need to be bold and direct. That's all there is left for me to learn. Right now I'm a growing man, I hold that word in very high regard. But I am not a Don Juan yet. Both of those are just words but they are what defines masculinity and true happiness. I deserve that sh*t. I am close to becoming a Don Juan, but until I can be bold and direct anywhere, I will never be complete.

Name.
Single?
Put your number in my phone.
Get to know each other.
Friends are optional worst case scenario.



Approach anxiety is the only thing stopping me, some women need to taste my life already.

BE BOLD AND DIRECT.

 

[YAboi]

don't ask the girl if she's single ideally until after you get to know her . Better yet just don't ask and wait for her to hint that she's taken.

 

[TheException]

don't ask the girl if she's single ideally until after you get to know her . Better yet just don't ask and wait for her to hint that she's taken.

Ya I agree^

Dont confuse "being bold" with communicating "overtly".

Women dont respond to that type of overt communication. Youll scare off women just from the shear anti slut defense that gets triggered. If you have all the attributes that you mentioned...just act normal. Start random conversations.....then get the number. Dont bring up things like "single", "boyfriends", "sex", "her looks", etc.

 

[Skyline]

don't ask the girl if she's single ideally until after you get to know her . Better yet just don't ask and wait for her to hint that she's taken.

I know where you're coming from I understand if I develop more rapport I will have a higher success rate because what I'm really asking is "are you interested right now?". It is not about success though. It is about me approaching in the first place and being direct regardless of failure or success. This is for me not her.

Im going to make my intentions clear as soon as possible in a bold fashion.

 

[Skyline]

Ya I agree^

Dont confuse "being bold" with communicating "overtly".

Women dont respond to that type of overt communication. Youll scare off women just from the shear anti slut defense that gets triggered. If you have all the attributes that you mentioned...just act normal. Start random conversations.....then get the number. Dont bring up things like "single", "boyfriends", "sex", "her looks", etc.

I am well aware of this but I'm gonna ignore this advice for 3 girls. If I get 3 straight rejections, I'll remove that exert. And I'm being direct, being bold is going up there in the first place.

 

[CaptainSaveAh0]

I have bad approach anxiety also, I just tend to over think things way too much which leads to the anxiety. The 3 second rule works good for me. That if I see a girl I'm interested in I walk to her asap within the 3 seconds. This allows me to just open up without thinking about all the what if's in the process. It all comes with practice, keep doing your thing.