"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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This is love

n00bPimp

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I think I know what love is, literally.
Love is just what we feel for everyone, but its most clear when we spend a lot of time with someone. So the people you spend the most time with are the ones you can notice your love for the most. However you cant spend a lot of time interacting with people you're not comfortable with, so the people we are comfortable with are the only ones we can ever get to love.

So when a man and a woman meet, it is said that they fall in love if there is enough comfort and sexual attraction to make them spend a lot of time together.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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pdx1138

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I like that.
Makes sense to me.

So that inner warm glow you some times feel for a chick (in the beginning) is infatuation right?
(since it eventually wears off)
 

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Love to me is not trying to find the perfect person but rather the ability to care for someone and forgive their faults. We're all flawed as human beings, so being able to recognize that, and look past people's shortcomings, to me that's love.

It's also a feeling of being comfortable around the person. We all try, when we go out, to be perfect, dress perfect, act perfect, etc. To attract people. But when you're able to stay at home in sweat pants and she's laying next to you with no makeup and messy hair, and you're both happy. That's love. Not that you should get lazy once you're in a long term relationship but you get what I mean. You feel no pressure to appear perfect. She accepts you for who you are and vice versa.

I've never been in love but I assume this is what I would be looking for when it happens. Comfort with each other and acceptance of your true selves
 
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