"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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This is love

n00bPimp

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I think I know what love is, literally.
Love is just what we feel for everyone, but its most clear when we spend a lot of time with someone. So the people you spend the most time with are the ones you can notice your love for the most. However you cant spend a lot of time interacting with people you're not comfortable with, so the people we are comfortable with are the only ones we can ever get to love.

So when a man and a woman meet, it is said that they fall in love if there is enough comfort and sexual attraction to make them spend a lot of time together.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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pdx1138

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I like that.
Makes sense to me.

So that inner warm glow you some times feel for a chick (in the beginning) is infatuation right?
(since it eventually wears off)
 

MisterD

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Love to me is not trying to find the perfect person but rather the ability to care for someone and forgive their faults. We're all flawed as human beings, so being able to recognize that, and look past people's shortcomings, to me that's love.

It's also a feeling of being comfortable around the person. We all try, when we go out, to be perfect, dress perfect, act perfect, etc. To attract people. But when you're able to stay at home in sweat pants and she's laying next to you with no makeup and messy hair, and you're both happy. That's love. Not that you should get lazy once you're in a long term relationship but you get what I mean. You feel no pressure to appear perfect. She accepts you for who you are and vice versa.

I've never been in love but I assume this is what I would be looking for when it happens. Comfort with each other and acceptance of your true selves
 
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