This is kinda irritating? is it worth confrontation?

[Ganondorf]

My gf and I have been together for almost 2 years. everythings great except one thing...

She's always texting on her stupid phone!!

it drives me nuts. I just consider it rude to always text when you're supposed to be hanging out with me. She's always replying to her team mates and roommates, yet sometimes when she's hanging out with her friends she "can't talk to me"? wtf?

Don't even get me started with when i'm out with my guys. she texts me all night. and expects me to talk to her. if i dont reply i'm "mad" at her.

now i trust her, but it just really pisses me off. Make me feel second rate to her girlfriends

now don't get me wrong. This is not always the case. She always texts me also. When she goes out to the bar i get a text every 5 min from her talking about some goon trying to get her number or what not, or how drunk her teammates are, how much she loves me, just saying Hi, how it's lame there etc. All night long

it just drives me crazy how she texts everyone when she's with me, but when she's hanging out with a friend she sometimes "can't talk"

is this worth saying anything about? or should i just leave it be as an irritating habit?

 

[everywomanshero]

Well I don't know your situation but for me this wouldn't be acceptable. I wouldn't walk on eggshells just so some chick doesn't think I am mad. I had one pull this not too long ago (she said she heard me tell her to F off when we were talking which I didn't say, I guess she was trying to see if I really cared by my reaction) and I wouldn't really comment on it much even though she pressed I would just say sorry but I didn't say that and then later I just reassured her that I did care and stuff and well that was months ago and it's never came up again. However, in your case it sounds (Im guessing) like you have a reoccuring issue. If it were me I would want to set this straight. I don't mean I'd go to her all macho and start *****ing like a 10 year old girl, but what I would do is say how it makes me feel when I have to worry about her getting freaked out so easily and I would ask her to have faith in the relationship. *****ing at people will always make things worse long term, it might seem to work because people just repress what they are thinking\doing, but sooner or later things will blow up. At the same time you repressing how this annoys you will lead to unneeded stress and repressing your feelings will similarly lead to resentment and a possible blowup

 

[Prodigy746]

That wouldnt be ok with me either.

I think that is pretty rude what she is doing and from what i heard it seems like she has a texting addiction. Who goes to the bar and texts every 5 mins... If she is hanging out with me she better put that phone away. Do you have fun when hanging out with her, she might be bored dood?

 

[Energizer]

This is unacceptable behaviour, I'd dump her over it. She's an inconsiderate, irritating cretin.

 

[slaog]

Set new boundaries. Have a chat with her and tell her it's annoying you and ask her will she try to change. Encourage her to change instead of telling her. If she doesn't then you can get tough.


It might just be that she's comfortable with you and she might think you're ok with it. It does't sound like anything serious.


I was chatting to my GF on MSN before and she sometimes would chat with other people at the same time. I used to think it was very rude but after a while I saw it from her point of view. She couldn't ignore people and she always gives me her full attention even over her best friend. It's what I expect anyway. I'm glad I didn't kick up a fuss about it and these days she just appears offline all the time and talks to me.


So sometimes if you think somebody is being disrespectful they might not be doing it intentionally.

 

[Tenzen]

You should be texting other girls when she does that in front of you =). Don't ask a girl to change or have a talk about whats bothering you... its like talking to a child your asking them to change their behavior right away? telling them it annoys you? hahhaha, wont work man, have some fun text other girls flirt like hell i'm sure it'll take your mind off her texting in front of you.