this is just getting boring...

[pyros]

I think women have so many options nowadays that it is pretty difficult to find a girl (even worse a quality girl) to have a relationship with.

For example, in my case, in the last three months I've had:
a) Girl I banged twice, went on 8 dates, she talked about her feelings for her ex several times...then she decided to go back to her ex.
b) Girl I banged once, she was crazy as hell but hot. Decided to go back to her ex who beated her several times. Never contacted me again.
c) Girl I met in a club. She seemed into me, I asked for her fb but she offered her fb and her cell phone. She texted me, we arranged a date for next Monday. Four days pass and she says nothing, I text her and she does not reply ---> no date.
d) Met this chick in salsa club. Got her number. Asked her out, she said sure, I suggest a place etc, and she goes silent forever. No more contact.
e) Girl I meet in a club. She seemed to like me, we chat for 15 minutes and she gets my number. On Monday she texts me, we chat, I ask her out she says she's busy during the weekdays. Ok. I text her on Thursday to ask her out she says she doesnt know and that she'll text me. I dont think she will but ok.
f) Last night I went to a salsa club. A girl asks me to dance, after the dance she talks to me so we have a conversation for 10-15 minutes. I ask for her number and she prefers to give me her fb instead. Today I check her fb profile and she looks way uglier than last night, so I am not even gonna add her...lol.

WHAT DA FU-CK IS this sh-it??

 

[Partizan]

Maybe clubs aren't the best places to meet women.

 

[MtnMan]

its a numbers game man, sounds about like my odds of success. I think its just the nature of the game unless you are Brad Pitt.

 

[zinc4]

If a girl talks about her her start countering with how u can't get over Ur ex fully because it's so difficult to meet anyone that measures up to them....

As far as club girls flaking...that is 100 percent normal... u usually have to lay a club girl same night to avoid a flake...even then, chances for flake are good...good relationship worthy women don't usually go to clubs...they are rare ..although I have met some decent ones from clubbing... But it's very rare...clubs are full of trash for the most part...just use em for sex...

Also, you seem a little too eager for a relationship and women, especially low quality ones get turned off quickly if they can sense that....I have been a little eager myself lately just because im 33 and would like to settle on one chick so I can focus my mental energy on martial arts and other stuff that I have been neglecting lately that makes me feel fulfilled....instead of clubbing all the time and other chasing women activit Ida....so I'm dro all my plates except for one who we have been discussing a future together lately...

 

[pyros]

its a numbers game man, sounds about like my odds of success. I think its just the nature of the game unless you are Brad Pitt.

But as you can see I try to pick up girls, I proactively do. However, a few of my friend do nothing, or almost nogthin, and they go from gf to gf. Others just keep dry spells for years, and other bang some monsters from time to time...its sad.

Shouldn't it be easier? I remember my brother in law (37 years old) told me once:
him: "Finding a good gf...it's just such a pain in the ass, its like looking for a good job...you do many interviews, you prepare them, you go there, present yourself...just for nothing. And if they hire you, you may realise that the job was not that good actually. I just hate it."

 

[pyros]

If a girl talks about her her start countering with how u can't get over Ur ex fully because it's so difficult to meet anyone that measures up to them....

As far as club girls flaking...that is 100 percent normal... u usually have to lay a club girl same night to avoid a flake...even then, chances for flake are good...good relationship worthy women don't usually go to clubs...they are rare ..although I have met some decent ones from clubbing... But it's very rare...clubs are full of trash for the most part...just use em for sex...

Also, you seem a little too eager for a relationship and women, especially low quality ones get turned off quickly if they can sense that....I have been a little eager myself lately just because im 33 and would like to settle on one chick so I can focus my mental energy on martial arts and other stuff that I have been neglecting lately that makes me feel fulfilled....instead of clubbing all the time and other chasing women activit Ida....so I'm dro all my plates except for one who we have been discussing a future together lately...

I dont know if the majority of women that go to clubs are trash or not. You know, once you're there you see cute/hot girls everywhere, from 18 to 30 years old. All girls Ive met have gone to clubs. Girls that go every weekend...get drunk etc...those are crap.

As you said, Im 28 and I'd like to find a damn quality girl to kind of 'settle' (not forever but for some time at least) so I stop searching, and I can focus more in other activities. I think my opinion is perfectly understandable. Going on dates, trying to pick up different chicks, texting them, getting flaked etc is time consuming. Besides, its been 2 years since my last LTR and I kind of miss having one, but it seems its damn difficult.

 

[MtnMan]

not all men are created equal, just accept it. Some dudes will naturally find women easier than others.

I am not a natural, one of my good friends is. He always had a hot little something to have a relationship with. When she is gone, he finds another hottie in a couple months. Its hard not to be jealous, but it does no good.

I can get girls too, I just have to work harder at it. Such is life. I stay naturally fit and skinny, he has to work his ass off to loose 10 lbs. Its life. Play the hand you are dealt.

 

[zinc4]

As long as you give a girl amazing sex and aren't needy it shouldn't be too difficult for plates to want one from you....I'm not trying to insult u, but I can't help but think u may be putting off a slightly needy vibe witch.is an attraction killer...I know because I do it too at times....also, make sure the girl is cumming hard when u bang her....there are a lot of good videos on how to make girls *** quickly and squirt on the internet by fingering her....make them crave your sex....

 

[pyros]

its ok.

The first girl that went back to her ex...well, last time we had sex she had three orgasms, so I do not think that was the problem you know?

The other chick that went back to her abusive bf...well, she was just nuts so...its a pity cause she was pretty hot.

Sometimes I just feel like I should be more lazy and not go after any woman unless she is CLEARLY interested from the begining, doesnt it happen to you?

 

[om1xr]

c) Girl I met in a club. She seemed into me, I asked for her fb but she offered her fb and her cell phone. She texted me, we arranged a date for next Monday. Four days pass and she says nothing, I text her and she does not reply ---> no date.
d) Met this chick in salsa club. Got her number. Asked her out, she said sure, I suggest a place etc, and she goes silent forever. No more contact.
e) Girl I meet in a club. She seemed to like me, we chat for 15 minutes and she gets my number. On Monday she texts me, we chat, I ask her out she says she's busy during the weekdays. Ok. I text her on Thursday to ask her out she says she doesnt know and that she'll text me. I dont think she will but ok.
f) Last night I went to a salsa club. A girl asks me to dance, after the dance she talks to me so we have a conversation for 10-15 minutes. I ask for her number and she prefers to give me her fb instead. Today I check her fb profile and she looks way uglier than last night, so I am not even gonna add her...lol.

WHAT DA FU-CK IS this sh-it??

first of all it is a numbers game and maybe you should focus on where I think you went wrong:

1- When you ask a girl out and she say NO or say she is BUSY and Doesn't offer another date . that's your answer! that mean she is not interested! Don't ask her again (I have one strike rule)

2-Fb may be an alternative and it seems that everyone is using it as a texting tool nowadays but facebook speaks a lot about you and if you don't have a solid profile then don't give your facebook and when girls offer their fb instead of their number then say you don't have one or you don't use it anymore. (I'm in my early 20s and don't use it or any other social media attention whoring apps)

another thing from my experience, if you are looking for quality girls (gf material) then you should focus more on social circles or approaches during the day because clubs and online dating are full of low quality b!tches with no life.

 

[Cheeks]

I think it's just the way it is now. I mostly end up laying girls 19-21 and it's always the same...flaky behavior, attention whoring, etc. The social landscape is changing. A young hot thing can just download Tinder and BAM...instant validation from hundreds of guys. They know they can play the field so they do. Eventually they get older and their looks fade and they know it's game over, so time to find a chump to look after her.

You can either try to date an older woman who is more than likely to be insane from having all kinds of d1ck run through her, or you can just harden up and bang sluts as they come and go and do your best not to get attached. Not sure what's the better option but I personally won't girlfriend up a former slut.

 

[Cheeks]

double

 

[The_411]

I think women have so many options nowadays that it is pretty difficult to find a girl (even worse a quality girl) to have a relationship with.

For example, in my case, in the last three months I've had:
a) Girl I banged twice, went on 8 dates, she talked about her feelings for her ex several times...then she decided to go back to her ex.
b) Girl I banged once, she was crazy as hell but hot. Decided to go back to her ex who beated her several times. Never contacted me again.
c) Girl I met in a club. She seemed into me, I asked for her fb but she offered her fb and her cell phone. She texted me, we arranged a date for next Monday. Four days pass and she says nothing, I text her and she does not reply ---> no date.
d) Met this chick in salsa club. Got her number. Asked her out, she said sure, I suggest a place etc, and she goes silent forever. No more contact.
e) Girl I meet in a club. She seemed to like me, we chat for 15 minutes and she gets my number. On Monday she texts me, we chat, I ask her out she says she's busy during the weekdays. Ok. I text her on Thursday to ask her out she says she doesnt know and that she'll text me. I dont think she will but ok.
f) Last night I went to a salsa club. A girl asks me to dance, after the dance she talks to me so we have a conversation for 10-15 minutes. I ask for her number and she prefers to give me her fb instead. Today I check her fb profile and she looks way uglier than last night, so I am not even gonna add her...lol.

WHAT DA FU-CK IS this sh-it??

"You say the leads are ****. Well, I say that you're ****."
- Alec Baldwin Glengary Glenross.

You're expecting women not to flake, low quality women to turn into unicorns, and all women to be good relationship material.


A) Once she started talking about her Ex you should be out of there. How many dates did you go on after she started blabbing about an ex?

B) You knew she was crazy and hot yet expected her to magically become a housewife?

C) You were an option but not her best option.

D) Flakes happen

E) Flakes happen

You can only control you, which means filtering, flaking is unavoidable.

The other thing you can control is spending your time on a woman efficiently. We're guilty of spending too much time chasing women that are interested to varying degrees.

It's not lazy to cut bait if she's not spiking interest.

The best way to find and filter out a LTR is through friends of hers. So if a girl doesn't pass muster try to keep her around to network to her friends.