This is it fellas. I'm finally moving out!!!

[vagrant]

Yes I'm looking for some advice.

A little background about myself. I just turned 21. I'm trying to be a Nurse and professional Boxer if I find the time. Just for the love of the sport. I'm thinking I'll work 12 hours a day and take 1 to 2 classes per semester depending on the course. I'll probably finish in 4 to 5 years. You're probably asking why. Right now I live in a nice house. My sister's house. Me and my mom and dad and brothers live in it. I'm the youngest in the family. I don't pay for anything at all so yes I'm lucky but I'm failing school because they don't know but they give me too much stuff to do and I never find time for myself. Almost all of them are too scared to drive in the freeway which is a lame excuse for me to waste my time. Sorry for my little nephew for complaining that he's taking up my time but I just hate how it's always got to be me when I have two other brothers on the line which are completely spoiled. All they think about are themselves and I'm the Mr. Nice guy. The head of the family supposedly who's catching everybody's mistakes and I'm tired of it. All my grades are bad and at the end of the day they ask my why and they never know that I spend more of my time for them than for myself. I'm just not too happy at home where I don't have control of my own life pretty much. I'm too lazy to do anything when I'm at home. The computer's always there, the television and the bed. I don't know I just feel like I'll never learn anything living in this house. I feel everybody's insane. Just doing the same thing over and over again and getting the same result just like me. Sometimes you have to be me to actually know why I want to move out. Anyways, let me hear some advice. A lot of them are telling me I'm heading the wrong way. I'm 21 and I'm searching for happiness more than richness. They all think once I become a Nurse which they say I'll be easily if I stay with them that I'll be happy. I don't think there's no need for me to wait for anything. I'm ready to start my life!~

 

[oakraiderz2]

If you live at home and get bad grades, youll drop out of school if you move out. 12 hour days plus 1 or 2 classes will probably break youre back. If you enticed by your bed, tv and computer, what change will it be if you move out? Are you only going to have a bed or what? Youre lazy at home because youre lazy. If you want to be a nurse then finish school and do well. Dont attribute bad grades to your family, tell them to f*ck off and that you have to study. Get your sh*t done and leave. Sometimes you have to take two steps back in order to get ahead.

 

[HandyAndy]

foo fighters

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

This is a refreshing post. Go out and start pricing how much it will cost for your expenses and go into MAJOR detail. Don't just say that you're going to spend $200 a month for food, what does that $200 include and how much does each item cost? Don't laugh but I've seen people create a tight budget but had no money left over for little things like bathroom tissue and toothpaste. One guy had started bumming sticks of gum and cigarettes to mask his breath (unsuccessfully). Anyway, learning experience...

Once you figure out cost for rent, food, upkeep, transportation, fun and incidentals, add another 10-15% to be safe. Can you afford what you came up with? No? Well now you understand the necessity to detail each and every item included in your budget. Instead of eating Ramen three nights a week you could save money you have it five nights a week and twice for lunch. You may need to cut back to only one can of Red Bull a day instead of two and you'll need to bum dinner off your folks every Sunday. Figure out your budget first and you'll be ahead of the game.

 

[MacAvoy]

Why are you working 12 hours a day? If your not paying rent, do you have a few grand saved up?

ps paragraphs in the future will help & get you a tonne more replies.

 

[SmoothTalker]

I have to agree with oakraiderz, if you have it easy and are struggling, getting a ton more **** dropped onto your shoulders will not help.

The shock might get you working harder (I use to waste hours a day on msn/tv/video games, then within one week of starting a tough university program I stopped watching tv entirely and went on msn 3 times all semester) but even if you start working harder, that kind of schedule will be extremely difficult.

Family can be distracting, but you are ignoring how much time you save because you live with them, ie you don't have to cook, they probably clean for you, etc.

My honest suggestion would be to stay at home, quit school, take full time courses and work your ass off to finish quickly, you can box on the side. Then get a good nursing job and move out and take up boxing seriously.

Of course it's up to you in the end, I just don't see the logic of stressing yourself out A LOT more to improve grades?

Oh and just take the TV out of your room and force yourself not to watch for 3 weeks. It's only a habit, once you stop watching and lose track of the plots in your shows, you'll lose interest.

 

[leftForDeadPhoenix]

Do it man. Welcome to reality.

 

[Bible_Belt]

I know two boxers on this site; one is a hair stylist and the other a nurse. God help anyone who gives you grief about your career choice.

It is logical to live at home until you finish school, but it is also logical that you should be passing your courses, and you are not. Obviously there is a problem. You have to change something, and if moving out can do that for you, then it would make sense. You should have a decent sum of money saved and a decent job before you move, though. Don't take on a big car payment; no payment is even better. That frees up money for rent and bills.

 

[vagrant]

I know two boxers on this site; one is a hair stylist and the other a nurse. God help anyone who gives you grief about your career choice.

It is logical to live at home until you finish school, but it is also logical that you should be passing your courses, and you are not. Obviously there is a problem. You have to change something, and if moving out can do that for you, then it would make sense. You should have a decent sum of money saved and a decent job before you move, though. Don't take on a big car payment; no payment is even better. That frees up money for rent and bills.

HAHAHA!..good one!

I really don't have any place. I guess I'll be sleeping in a car. I don't know, as soon as I find a job I'll be set. Being a caregiver isn't really hard. It just takes up your time but it isn't really tiring. lol. I'm going there with probably 600 bucks w/o a job. I know I'm thinking, I'm thinking.

 

[Wiesman44]

HAHAHA!..good one!

I really don't have any place. I guess I'll be sleeping in a car. I don't know, as soon as I find a job I'll be set. Being a caregiver isn't really hard. It just takes up your time but it isn't really tiring. lol. I'm going there with probably 600 bucks w/o a job. I know I'm thinking, I'm thinking.

For your sake, please don't move out. Seems like u have half a brain in that head of yours. The fact that u blame everybody but yourself is pathetic.

I'd go on and on, but I'd be wasting my time.