"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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This is incredibly fvckin sweet

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Dam he really was good. Thats pretty dum question to ask. All it takes is practice.
 

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shydude said:
Dam he really was good. Thats pretty dum question to ask. All it takes is practice.
Yea, i know sport. Not everyone who practices can do that. I wanted to know how long it might take and where to start. I play now but i dont know what to practice.
 

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Yea, i know sport. Not everyone who practices can do that. I wanted to know how long it might take and where to start. I play now but i dont know what to practice.

Well it does take practice. I can play several songs by The Fall of Troy (the guitarist of the band plays really fast, way faster than that guy), and it's all practice. Just play the song really slow at first, then get faster and faster. That's just how it's done. It could take a day or a month. It depends on how often you practice and dedication.

I'd say it'd take about a week or two to play that song that fast if you really work at it. Cause that's nothing compared to what I've seen.
 

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DogFashionDisco said:
Well it does take practice. I can play several songs by The Fall of Troy (the guitarist of the band plays really fast, way faster than that guy), and it's all practice. Just play the song really slow at first, then get faster and faster. That's just how it's done. It could take a day or a month. It depends on how often you practice and dedication.

I'd say it'd take about a week or two to play that song that fast if you really work at it. Cause that's nothing compared to what I've seen.
Damn, the fall of troy is fvckin amazing. I wanna be able to improve like that, but i dunno if i need to know chords or theory or what.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Sorry to burst you bubbles, but there was absolutely nothing difficult about that song. Drop D...gee what a surprise. Get a clue, that's nothing more than run-of-the-mill psuedo-new-metal.

I've been playing guitar for over 12 years, and I've dabbled in many different styles.

If you want to play some difficult metal, start with some early metallica and megadeth, then work your way up to some slayer. Get your right hand up to speed and practice your downpicking. If you can play the riffs on Master of Puppets the correct way(mostly all downpicking), then you can play what that guy plays in the clip with your eyes closed and half-asleep.

Then when you get bored with that, buy a flamenco guitar and try learning flamenco just to humble yourself and realize how little you know about playing guitar.
 

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i couldn't play a regular scale on a guitar but i can play anything I hear by ear on the piano, and there was nothing specticular about that.

Learn your chords and scales, learn them backwards, fowards. Learn all the variations until it becomes second nature.

I am to the point where I can play a song I have never heard more times than not before I hear the entire song, becuase I know how the normal chord progressions are supposed to go, or sound like they will go.

If you go to collegehumor.com there is a guy playing zelda on the piano, it's pretty cool. What he did isn't the hardest thing on earth, but that's a long ass song
 

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Then when you get bored with that, buy a flamenco guitar and try learning flamenco just to humble yourself and realize how little you know about playing guitar.
Uhh...sorry i thought it sounded cool:rolleyes: And uhh...i know how little i know and how little i will know...thats not the point. Next time dont get so offended.:whistle:
 

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italostud said:
Sorry to burst you bubbles, but there was absolutely nothing difficult about that song. Drop D...gee what a surprise. Get a clue, that's nothing more than run-of-the-mill psuedo-new-metal.

I've been playing guitar for over 12 years, and I've dabbled in many different styles.

If you want to play some difficult metal, start with some early metallica and megadeth, then work your way up to some slayer. Get your right hand up to speed and practice your downpicking. If you can play the riffs on Master of Puppets the correct way(mostly all downpicking), then you can play what that guy plays in the clip with your eyes closed and half-asleep.

Then when you get bored with that, buy a flamenco guitar and try learning flamenco just to humble yourself and realize how little you know about playing guitar.
haha, i was anticipating some complex guitar skills! definitely not a difficult song to play
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Gotta love drop D. One finger power chords = looking like you know how to thrash really well.

Get good at power chords and palm muting and you can play that riff.
 

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italostud said:
Sorry to burst you bubbles, but there was absolutely nothing difficult about that song. Drop D...gee what a surprise. Get a clue, that's nothing more than run-of-the-mill psuedo-new-metal. QUOTE]

Amen I could play that behind my head (LOL If I really wanted to). :kick:
 

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That isn't so amazingly impressive, I've seen much better
 

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That was average new metal riffing, in dropped D tuning, nonethelss. nothing fancy. He was nice and tight, though.... many players haven't learned how to NOT play, meaning, they haven't learned that the space between notes needs to be clean.

I saw that last link (Canon in D) and that guy's pretty slick. It's a bit more my style of playing.

I was influenced by megadeth, Extreme, Testament and Metallica. I could play the entire Justice For All album note for note when I was 17. (solos and all) All it takes is massive dedication to your instrument, to get good..... and alot of time. I've been playing guitar for 16 years and the past 5 years I've been doing it proffessionally.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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i am a semi decent guitar player, but i still would not intentionally sit a girl down and play her a piece unless it was an impressively difficult piece that i knew i could play flawlessly.

playing some basic ramones or metal shzt is not going to impress any woman - they've already had 10 boyfriends that could play master of puppets.
 

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Yeah, that guy ain't anything special. The last guy was pretty good though. Those triplets near the end were pretty damn fast. By any standards he was far better than the first dude.
 

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