This is driving me crazy.. need some help please

[therussian]

let me start off that i'm not a noob and get a very decent amount of women from just going to clubs and other social events. i have no problem approaching women whatsoever and have no confidence issues. however, i feel totally at a loss right now. and i hate myself for it.

now, i haven't been in a relationship in a couple years, before that i had a 3.5 year serious relationship with a girl. ever since we broke up, i've just been enjoying my life as a single man, meeting women, getting laid and never looking back.

recently, i've met this girl, she's 18.. i'm 30 (don't judge me or make assumptions just yet). met her online. she seems pretty mature for her age and i don't feel like i'm talking to a recent high school grad. she's also absolutely gorgeous. now we've been sexting for the past week and the texts are off the richter scale. we decided to meet this past friday. we met at a starbucks and the attraction was instant. after about half hour at starbucks we leave and continue talking in the parking lot, i can see she wants to kiss, so i grab her and kiss her, she says that shes been waiting for it ever since she saw me. we decide to go to my house, she jumps in my car. she's not wearing any panties, wet as a sponge as i'm fingering her in the car driving to my crib.

we get to the house, have insane sex for about 2 hours if not more. anything you can think of. at the same time she's showing a lot of affection to me, something that you would expect from your girlfriend and not a chick you just met an hour ago. lots of caressing, kissing, rubbing, just as if we were dating for a while you know. this drove me up the wall since i haven't really had that affection in a long time, because women i sleep with are just **** buddies, etc. like i said though, we talked for a bout two weeks and texted for about a week or so. we have similar interests, etc.

now, she has to be back home because she's housesitting with her older sister for one of her mom's friends house. she also just moved here from another state so she knows absolutely nobody here.
anyway, i drop her off at the car and she starts making out with me before she steps out and leaves. we say bye and leave. now this was friday. yesterday i texted her around midday to see what she's up to and if she wants to chill do something whatever. she said she's going to dinner with her sister to her sister's friend's house. i said well let me know if you wanna hang out after that. never got a text from her. today i haven't got a text from her either and its driving me nuts.

now, please, before you go saying stuff like "man you're trippin, let that **** go". i want to let you know how i'm looking at this situation. after having a clear connection like that with somebody, i would expect that this person would want to hang out or be around me just as much, right? and after yesterday i don't know if i should be the one to even initiate contact with her.
i haven't dealt with **** like this in a long time since the women i usually sleep with and have any kinds of relationships are mostly straightforward and there's no guessing games with that.

i'm not saying that she's playing games, but i'm at a total loss. i know there's difference in age, but after all the things we talked about i would think the girl would want to chill, especially i know that she doesn't work and really has no big responsibilities from what i know about her.

the reason i am kinda stuck on her is because she really stood out to me and all the affection we showed each other made me feel different than i usually feel after i simply sleep with some chick i meet.

in any other situation i'd just say **** this **** and ignore her, but i can't get her out of my head.

so can someone please speak some sense to me! i feel like a ****ing idiot.

thanks!

 

[roflzaur]

i've met this girl, she's 18.. i'm 30

Thats a red flag she probably has daddy issues/BPD. Realize girls with daddy issues have very little self control and will probably cheat on you if you get in a relationship with them.

we get to the house, have insane sex for about 2 hours if not more. anything you can think of. at the same time she's showing a lot of affection to me, something that you would expect from your girlfriend and not a chick you just met an hour ago. lots of caressing, kissing, rubbing, just as if we were dating for a while you know. this drove me up the wall since i haven't really had that affection in a long time

She is most likely seeking love from an older male that she lacked from her father. I would diagnose her with BPD.

Id keep her in your back pocket as a **** buddy and find a girl closer to your age.

 

[VladPatton]

You know, it's great and all when you can bang em on the first meeting/date and all, but you gotta realize, no quality woman will do that. She's just a young girl with who knows what issues, very little self control, and will probably by a hot mess by the time she's 25.

You just gotta go NC on her and stop looking towards a future, or level down to a phuck buddy status, which you really shouldn't be complaining about if she's that impulsive and hot in bed.

Expect unpredictability with this one.

 

[MikeOck]

Relax, chill out, and stop acting obsessive. This girl isn't your wife, not even your girlfriend, and yet you are freaking out because you haven't heard from her in 24 hours? Keep that up and you are going to scare her away. Just play it cool, stop initiating contact and acting desperate to see her. Take a few deep breaths and find something else to do. If/when she contacts you, maybe you can find some time to work her into your schedule.

 

[omega05]

ah the ol' "she hasn't contacted my in 24 hours after we had insane sex and I'm 30 and she's 18 and I dont know what to do with myself"

Man go to work or whatever you do to keep busy before you met her. Stressin over an 18 year old smh

 

[therussian]

ok. thanks. ****. i needed some slapping in my face for sure. all that mushy caressing and affection got the best of me. damn i look stupid huh?

 

[Jair213]

I feel ya bro u let ur emotions get the best of u maybe due to the fact the she's young and seemed inocent on some way? Don't let none of that get to u. She needs to explore around her new territory since she's new in town.

 

[therussian]

I feel ya bro u let ur emotions get the best of u maybe due to the fact the she's young and seemed inocent on some way? Don't let none of that get to u. She needs to explore around her new territory since she's new in town.

yeah exactly man. she was just so affectionate that i thought maybe there was something. and i'm not saying i'd jump into a relationship, but at least i'd think that that person would have some kind of urge to see me again and hang out etc. focking bullsh1t is what it is. i hate that.

on a positive side of things, after i worked out today, i went into a local radio shack to pick up some stuff for my celly and even though they didn't have what i was looking for, i macked to this really hot girl that worked there. out of all places right? got a number though

 

[Dante1a]

The point here is to not let her sway you one way or another. You need to be the mature, exciting and experienced man that she goes to.

As someone who seems to be a guy that 18-23 year old girls love to "go adventurous with" (poor me, I know), I've been in this situation before.

The point is, after coming off a relationship, you are looking to fill that void of love and affection as quickly as possible. Don't be. You don't know if she is a good emotional investment or not at this point, and, judging from the fact that she is 18, it's not likely that she is.

Young girls want to spend time sowing their "wild oats" and she might be doing just that.

If you want to continue seeing her, be interesting, but hands off. Be the sexy older guy. Show her something that the younger guys can't: Style, sophistication, emotional maturity and a solid psychological state.

That's when relationships like this can be fun. But, putting your emotional investment in a horny 18 year old girl (great person or no), is a pretty bad idea.

Good luck, mate!

 

[therussian]

The point here is to not let her sway you one way or another. You need to be the mature, exciting and experienced man that she goes to.

As someone who seems to be a guy that 18-23 year old girls love to "go adventurous with" (poor me, I know), I've been in this situation before.

The point is, after coming off a relationship, you are looking to fill that void of love and affection as quickly as possible. Don't be. You don't know if she is a good emotional investment or not at this point, and, judging from the fact that she is 18, it's not likely that she is.

Young girls want to spend time sowing their "wild oats" and she might be doing just that.

If you want to continue seeing her, be interesting, but hands off. Be the sexy older guy. Show her something that the younger guys can't: Style, sophistication, emotional maturity and a solid psychological state.

That's when relationships like this can be fun. But, putting your emotional investment in a horny 18 year old girl (great person or no), is a pretty bad idea.

Good luck, mate!

all are very good points. thanks for that. i usually date girls around my age, maybe a couple years younger. i think the last time i had sex with an 18 year old before this one was when i was like 24. you are absolutely right though. i haven't had a relationship in almost three years so all this caused a flashback to what it felt like and i fell for it. i'm still a bit irritated, but not as much as i was. some of my friends talked some real sense into me and told me to wipe my vagina off haha. as for you saying "be the sexy older guy" its funny because i look like i'm 23. but i get what you're saying. thanks for the advice my man.