"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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this is defenitatly discussion material

christz

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Ok quick overview this post has two parts one with cold approches, and the other with some discuission material that i find really important and i want to know what you all think.

Ok see I've attempted the cold approches i did it twice today, once at applebeas and i got the girls phone number, the way i did it was i noticed her looking over constantly so this is how it went.

"hey so how old are you?"

"i'm 21" (with a smile)

"hah, that's cool then you live around here?"

"yeah actually i just got a new place"

"cool, well hey would you be intrested in partying it up sometime? me and my friend here have a lot of other friends and we pretty much party it up on a weekend basis, well i mean at least we try.. who knows what will happen tomorrow"

(she laughs)

"sure! here let me give you my phone number"

END

Second was at the mall, this is a pretty high class mall with about a shyt load of hot girls.. staisticlly speaking anybody can come in here ask each girl and probably walk away with at least one number.

So i'm walking around upstairs with a friend and i spot this hot HB8 standing next to dillards, black hair, olive skin light eyes. I noticed her looking and then i saw her do a double take. (she looked back immediatly after her inital look)

i took this as a HUGE sign and i sacked up and just went over there.

"hey what's up, you waitin for somebody?"

"yeah actually they're in dillards"

"yeah, well you know i was just walking up here i saw you and i thought i would come over an introduce myself."

(smiles)

"my names chris, and u?"

"alexis, you shop here often?"

"nah actually its to expensive for me see i perferr that kmart bought stuff, i hear girls be loving the thrift store style"

(she cracks up)

"uh huh, it ALMOST looks like you shop at kmart with your abercrombie jeans and button down shirt."

"haha, i guess you got me, i really don't shop here often though, i was just kinda window shopping so i know what i'll tell people i would have got them for Xmas"

(she cracks up again)

"haha, you got jokes! you live close?"

"maybe, why? you wanna chill sometime?"

"maybe.."

"maybe huh? well why don't i give you my number and you can call me"

"haha hmm how about this i'll give you MY number and YOU can call ME"

"done deal"

Anyway.. I get her number and leave. Like i said i'm sarcastic guy so the C+F rolls off like its second nature, because it is.

NOW I called them both tonight, which is why i'm makeing this post.. See the first girl it was like pulling teeth to have a conversation. But the second one.. conversation flowed smooth it was liek she was one of the guys.

Now here's the questions, FIRST how do you think i did? and second does anybody else think that CONVERSATION the ability to talk to each other is the single most IMPORTANT thing to establish.

Like if you can't talk to a girl on the phone for at least 30 minutes easy.. then it probably won't work out.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I am a RAFC so I am not qualified to answer your primary questions. However, it was interesting reading and actually slightly inspiring for someone like me. I have one question for you, though, based on the following:

I noticed her looking and then i saw her do a double take. (she looked back immediatly after her inital look)
If a chick looked at you 3x during class--suddenly turns around to gawk at you--the day after you first talked to her would you consider that a huge sign of interest? Thanks in advance for the reply. Good work, btw. *salutes you*
 

christz

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anytime a girl looks at you more than once, its probalby a good sign. SO i would say just approach..

I sacked up because of pugs, and a lot of my other friends that say, what the hell do you have to lose? other than nothing?

and a double take is normally a REALLY good sign, but any girl that holds EC for longer than 4 seconds.. i mean like the guys here say

she's either a cack tease, or she wants you to talk to her NOW
 

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first, with the whole pick up convos, u did fine, u tried and succeeded...

the second part of ur question, u don't have to talk to them for 30 min... a short and sweet convo around maybe 10-15 is fine.. just as long as u keep them on the edge before u end the call. don't worry about the other chick who u have difficulty talkin to... remember, ur the catch, and u don't give an F* if she rejects u, cuz u have another fling on the side...

call them both up at the end of the week (or weekend) and ask them what they did... that should keep their mouth running...
 
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