"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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This is crazy.. My Girl wants to be a stripper.. wat should I do??

YoungSir4sho

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We known each other for 3weeks now. We like each other a lot. Problem is that her mom n step dad got into another physical confrontation the other day. Put him in jail n now there's a restraing order. So now the mom,girl n other 2 kids have the whole house to themselves. The mom has to pay 2gs a month for where they r staying at.

My girl works 3days a week n makes 19dollars an hour but still. Not enough. So she told me that she will most likely be a stripper. She knows how I feel about it n I expressed it to her that I don't want her to do it.

1st she doesn't consider that cheating lmao. 2nd she says that she just wants the money to help the bills.

Listen I don't care, I told her that I would help her but she doesn't want me to help her. So now wat??

I think I might have to just leave this girl if she becomes a stripper. I can't b wit her if she is a stripper cuz I like her alot. N do care about her.. Wat would u guys suggest. How should I handle it.. Act like it don't matter, break up wit her?? I keep tryin to use logic wit her about she doenst have to sell her body but I don't think she is listening... its messed up also cuz I thought me n her had sumthing real special goin on but like always sumthin bad always happens..
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Bible_Belt

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She is probably just as worried about another stripper stealing her man.

At three weeks, why do you care so much? This is not your wife we're talking about. She's just another girl. Everyone here will tell you to run, and it sounds like they are probably right, but if you are strong enough to deal with it, then I think it could be fun, mostly because you will get to know and party with all of the other strippers she works with. If you want her to stay faithful, it is better to show her that you could easily be with any one of her friends than it is to show jealousy.
 

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Good lookin out on the info.. But she changed her mind. I acted like if she was gonna do it den I aint gonna b wit her. I den said I would help her out again n to drop her ego. She said iight n also on 1 condition. She then said that she has to do something for me. I asked wat.. She said anything I want.. Lol

N don't adct like 3weeks aint enough to have alil feelings for sum girl. We talk on the phone a lot, good times when we hangin out. Its the principal with me n I couldn't be with a girl that I care about become a stripper. Forget all of that don't act like im not jealous.. Imma let it known feel me.
 

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YoungSir4sho said:
We known each other for 3weeks now. We like each other a lot. Problem is that her mom n step dad got into another physical confrontation the other day. Put him in jail n now there's a restraing order.
This is a red flag in and of itself. She probably has daddy issues coming out the ass with an absent father and an abusive stepdad. I did 6 months of volunteer work as a domestic violence victim's advocate while I was serving in the Air Force. Almost all of the victim's were women, and about half of them showed signs of BPD. If this is the case here, you are in for a hellish ride with this girl as she is likely to perpetuate the same cycle she has seen unfold at home with you.

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1st she doesn't consider that cheating lmao. 2nd she says that she just wants the money to help the bills.
She doesn't consider it cheating, but you obviously do. If she goes and does it anyway, then she is basically giving you the finger and saying "I don't care what you think." Do you really want to be with a woman who doesn't care what you think?
 

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Leave her hor ass.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Dear God! there are alot of AFCs on this site. Did you not read anything on here?

You've known this girl for "3 WEEKS"... 3 WEEKS man!

1.you talk on the phone for hours... a major mistake
2.You're carrying major feelings after just 3 weeks
3.YOU ARE WILLING TO PAY HER FAMILY'S BILLS... AFTER JUST 3 WEEKS!!!... sweet baby Jesus, you are a tool bro.

If it was me i'd change my expectations of her as a girlfriend... and look forward to some freaky sex and maybe some threesomes in my future.

Here was You should do though... take some time out from your toolery and work on your inner game... study some of the material on this site. Otherwise i feel there will be a lot of pain in your future.
 

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Honestly, I dated a stripper; one of the best frickin' relationships I ever had. The fact I was totally ok with it showed her I've got no control issues, and frankly, I was quite chuffed that other guys had to pay to see her naked and not touch, but she'd hump me for free.
 
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YoungSir4sho said:
We known each other for 3weeks now. We like each other a lot. Problem is that her mom n step dad got into another physical confrontation the other day. Put him in jail n now there's a restraing order. So now the mom,girl n other 2 kids have the whole house to themselves. The mom has to pay 2gs a month for where they r staying at.

My girl works 3days a week n makes 19dollars an hour but still. Not enough. So she told me that she will most likely be a stripper. She knows how I feel about it n I expressed it to her that I don't want her to do it.

1st she doesn't consider that cheating lmao. 2nd she says that she just wants the money to help the bills.

Listen I don't care, I told her that I would help her but she doesn't want me

to help her. So now wat??

I think I might have to just leave this girl if she becomes a stripper. I can't b wit her if she is a stripper cuz I like her alot. N do care about her.. Wat would u guys suggest. How should I handle it.. Act like it don't matter, break up wit her?? I keep tryin to use logic wit her about she doenst have to sell her body but I don't think she is listening... its messed up also cuz I thought me n her had sumthing real special goin on but like always sumthin bad always happens..

Ayyy yo homes. Tell the hoochie you'll get a J.O.B as a stripper and bring home the paper. End of story. :up:

Anyways....My word is bond this nicca is fakin the funk. Stop frontin for attention homie. Dunny's a troll. Peace HHH. One!
 
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