This is cheating....right?

[chim_chim]

I'll give a little background information first. I've been exclusive with a girl(I'll call her Jenny) for about 6 weeks. The first month was awesome, but the last 2 weeks have been the complete opposite. I planned to dump her 2 weeks ago when things started going downhill, but I didn't out of consideration for her because of a family issue(her dad is back from Iraq for 2 weeks and it's x-mas, I didn't want to make it harder for her).

Now to the question. Tonight "Jenny" had a party at her house with about 20 people, including one person who I will call Ted. Ted went out with with my gf in the past. Over the past couple weeks they've started spending quite a bit of time together. Even though we were officially going out tonight still, Jenny was cold towards me but was kinoing Ted. From what I've heard she just uses Ted as an emotional tampon. Ted, however, has been talking sh!t about me behind my back to her ever since we started going out.

Then at midnight when the ball dropped, she gave me a kiss, but then she also gave a short kiss on the lips to Ted. I didn't really give a **** since I was going to dump her over the next week anyways, but I do find it disrespectful towards me. Am I right in being pissed about this and not wanting to stay friends with her, or am I over-reacting? I would consider giving an ex-bf a quick peck on the lips when you're going out with someone else cheating, but one of my acquaintances told me I'm being an a-hole. I dumped her tonight because after that I wasn't really worried anymore about her feelings. Am I correct in considering what she did cheating?

PS: Yes, I know I'm not a DJ, but I'm improving. So you don't need to point that out.

 

[AC/DC]

You are definitely correct in what you did, and I'm sorry your new year had to start off this way.

You don't need this BS from her, it's unacceptable. That's all.

 

[MetalFortress]

Agreed with AC. Your acquaintance who thinks you're being an a-hole is a douche bag. If she's disrespecting me like that, I'd dump her too.

 

[chim_chim]

Thanks for the reply AC/DC. This incident made me realize how far I have to go until I'm a DJ, but also how far I've come. I was a DJ with her for the first month or so, but then I got comfortable and got semi-AFCish. This incident really proves that no good deed goes unpunished. I should've just dumped her when her IL dropped, but now I've learned.

The sad part is that it's 5:30am and I can't sleep because I'm so pissed off. My AFCness dies hard.

 

[chim_chim]

I'm going to use this post as motivation for me and post my resolutions for the upcoming year:

Balance the line between nice guy, good guy, and jerk. Right now I'm a good guy with acquaintances, but with closer friends I'm too nice sometimes. This sh1t is going to end.

Make more friends. I've used the fact that I live in a town of 500 people as an excuse too long. I'm going to meet people in other towns and improve my social skills from average to excellent.

Become more well read. I've been meaning to read 48 Laws of Power, Nietszche, etc for a while. Now I'm actually going to do it.

Be one of the most popular guys on campus once I hit college. If I buckle down the rest of this year I should be able to succeed.

Try to procrastinate less. I know I'll probably fail on this, but it's worth a try.

Improve my appearance. I'm happy with my musculature right now, but I could use some updated clothes and hair. I'd ask for a tan but I'm damn near an albino, so it won't happen unless I get a spray tan twice-a-week.

Learn more about business. This is a skill that will help me through life.

Get more and varied activities. I'm going to start fencing in February, hopefully I'll think of some other interests also.

Cut TV/Internet time down to a maximum of 2 hours per night.

Improve my DJ skills. This should happen automatically as I meet more women.


Thanks DJs for listening to my whining.

 

[DJ Alejandro]

yeh, man. sure is the right thing to do. man! id dump her the next chance i get! damn! ive been there. very disrespectful. N E X T ! ! !

 

[Superman X]

I'm going to use this post as motivation for me and post my resolutions for the upcoming year:

Balance the line between nice guy, good guy, and jerk. Right now I'm a good guy with acquaintances, but with closer friends I'm too nice sometimes. This sh1t is going to end.

Make more friends. I've used the fact that I live in a town of 500 people as an excuse too long. I'm going to meet people in other towns and improve my social skills from average to excellent.

Become more well read. I've been meaning to read 48 Laws of Power, Nietszche, etc for a while. Now I'm actually going to do it.

Be one of the most popular guys on campus once I hit college. If I buckle down the rest of this year I should be able to succeed.

Try to procrastinate less. I know I'll probably fail on this, but it's worth a try.

Improve my appearance. I'm happy with my musculature right now, but I could use some updated clothes and hair. I'd ask for a tan but I'm damn near an albino, so it won't happen unless I get a spray tan twice-a-week.

Learn more about business. This is a skill that will help me through life.

Get more and varied activities. I'm going to start fencing in February, hopefully I'll think of some other interests also.

Cut TV/Internet time down to a maximum of 2 hours per night.

Improve my DJ skills. This should happen automatically as I meet more women.

This girl just did the biggest favor that anyone has every done you in your life. If she hadn't pulled this little BS stunt, then you probably wouldn't have been as motivated to acheive these goals. But if you do acheive them, they'll improve your life enormously. In five years you won't matter what happened with this girl, but it will matter how you improved yourself.

Self-improvement is born out of failure, not success.

-Dan