This is BULLSH*T!

[PeterNorthisawesome]

Background: My dad was in an accident when I was 5 and is physcially /mentally disabled so he lives now in NY. My mom died from cancer when I was 15 and I lived in Japan my whole life but moved to the states to live with my aunt and uncle in a small town with no public transport.

Problem: I am not getting along with my aunt or my uncle at ALL. They piss UG1 daughter like a princess. They make me do all the work and when I talk back they get pissed. My aunt who has no life expect work, she somehow feels she needs to HELP me cuz "Im troubled" but offers me NO HELP when I need it (Ex. She never told me how the liscence system works until I was 17 so I finally got my permit when I was 17.) I got drunk and my aunt found out so she offered threapy sessions I said I'm fine! but she ignored me and schedueld it anyways. After 10 sessions the doctor said I was healthy (diagnosed with homesickness) and it was all good until she schedueled a "check-up session" a week ago now the doctor (liar pr*ck) says I need MORE sessions just so he can make more money. He did NOTHING during the sessions seriously he was NO HELP... I probably ended up being worse off. Few days ago my uncle yelled at me and told me to get a job for college cuz they ain't paying for me (They should have told me this when I came!) When I tried to use the money I had in MY BANK account to buy a car my aunt refused cuz "it's for college" (Car=2 grand College=20 grand) clearly I can't pay for college myself.

Bottomline is all these BS is pissing me off and preventing me for sarging cuz it's keeping me in a bad mood all the time and the stress is insane I'm losing hair like crazy. Before I came to the US I had 3 LTRs and about 10 hookups in 2 years. So what should I do? should I just listen to what they say and keep living this BS? or should just do what I wanna do (Buy Car so I can go ON DATES go where I want without the help of my aunt and uncle and quit threapy) and risk being kicked out of the house? So ya what would you do?

P.S.

I'm not shy or depressed, I get along with everyone and they all think I'm a normal nice guy. So I don't think there's anything wrong with me mentally.

 

[BacardiGuy]

If you're truly that unhappy living with them, get a job, open your own bank account under your control since you're 18 now, and start saving so you can move the **** out. Find roommates to share an apt with to make it more affordable.

If you do plan on going to college you'll be able to live on campus but you'd still need a place for the summer. Obviously you'll need loans for tuition but that's the norm, pretty much everyone attending college is in debt after graduation. Just work hard hard in school, get a good job, and pay it off in time.

Gov't will probably hook you up with a nice amount of financial aid if you do all the forms correctly (FAFSA and other **** I don't remember).

 

[PeterNorthisawesome]

Ya I got a job at Macdonals it's actually quite fun cuz I get to talk to strangers so my social skills are improving. I actually do have my own bank account but my aunt refuses to take me and she won't give me my money from Japan and tell me she is HOLDING IT FOR ME (Total is about 1 grand) These kind of weird sh*t makes me so mad! They tell me to be MORE MATURE AND GROWN UP but they prevent it by restricting what I can do.

 

[protienpowder]

Go to community college, work, then go to college. IF you go to a public college, you'll definatly get some financial aid. Talk to the financial aid pple about your situation when you apply

 

[DJ_in_making]

Background: My dad was in an accident when I was 5 and is physcially /mentally disabled so he lives now in NY. My mom died from cancer when I was 15 and I lived in Japan my whole life but moved to the states to live with my aunt and uncle in a small town with no public transport.

Problem: I am not getting along with my aunt or my uncle at ALL. They piss UG1 daughter like a princess. They make me do all the work and when I talk back they get pissed. My aunt who has no life expect work, she somehow feels she needs to HELP me cuz "Im troubled" but offers me NO HELP when I need it (Ex. She never told me how the liscence system works until I was 17 so I finally got my permit when I was 17.) I got drunk and my aunt found out so she offered threapy sessions I said I'm fine! but she ignored me and schedueld it anyways. After 10 sessions the doctor said I was healthy (diagnosed with homesickness) and it was all good until she schedueled a "check-up session" a week ago now the doctor (liar pr*ck) says I need MORE sessions just so he can make more money. He did NOTHING during the sessions seriously he was NO HELP... I probably ended up being worse off. Few days ago my uncle yelled at me and told me to get a job for college cuz they ain't paying for me (They should have told me this when I came!) When I tried to use the money I had in MY BANK account to buy a car my aunt refused cuz "it's for college" (Car=2 grand College=20 grand) clearly I can't pay for college myself.

Bottomline is all these BS is pissing me off and preventing me for sarging cuz it's keeping me in a bad mood all the time and the stress is insane I'm losing hair like crazy. Before I came to the US I had 3 LTRs and about 10 hookups in 2 years. So what should I do? should I just listen to what they say and keep living this BS? or should just do what I wanna do (Buy Car so I can go ON DATES go where I want without the help of my aunt and uncle and quit threapy) and risk being kicked out of the house? So ya what would you do?

P.S.

I'm not shy or depressed, I get along with everyone and they all think I'm a normal nice guy. So I don't think there's anything wrong with me mentally.

Bro, I can understand your situation i've been through something kind of similar. I know the way they treat their daughter is unfair, hell life is straight up F-D up at times but the truth is while you're in their house just try to tolerate it.

From the lifestyle you had you're probably superb at communicating and making friends, make the most out of this skill. I don't know if there is someone else you can move in with?? Build connections, if you can get into a college that's on a campus go for it. Apply for LOANS, GRANTS, SCHOLARSHIPS, keep working.

Maybe you can still save for your car but you can't exactly buy it. After all you are in their house so don't dwell on that. Best of luck man.

 

[Phoenix_of_the_ashes]

Dont let her "hold" your money if you think they are trying to bull**** you.

 

[Chosen1]

I would either move out or join the service actually i'm in the service right now sometimes you just got to do your own thing

 

[Jsmooth]

I would either move out or join the service actually i'm in the service right now sometimes you just got to do your own thing

that really is good advice, if you would be the type to join the army, i say do it. it would be such a better lifestyle. you would be independant with money, and you could defenitly use your "college money" ot buy a car. but best fo luck to ya, i know you'll do great.

 

[PeterNorthisawesome]

Yeah I was thinking about joining the Army or the marines but again THEY REFUSED because they're hardcore democrats and don't support Bush or the war at all. They told me that they don't want me killed in the war because it's still dangerous right now and Army will send me straight to Iraq. I'm still thinking about Air Force or Navy if I can't get into a college.

 

[DJ_in_making]

They told me that they don't want me killed in the war because it's still dangerous right now and Army will send me straight to Iraq.

And you're basically dying in that house right there. Well, you're 18, if you want to go to the army they can not stop you. You have to obey their rules in their house, but outside of their house you can do whatever you want.

 

[BacardiGuy]

Seriously, you're 18, you don't need their permission for anything outside the house. Military is a good option if you don't mind the hard work. You'll earn money, get help with college, and be able to get the **** out of their house.

 

[Jsmooth]

And you're basically dying in that house right there. Well, you're 18, if you want to go to the army they can not stop you. You have to obey their rules in their house, but outside of their house you can do whatever you want.

exactly, go to the recruiter. it'll be all good.

 

[BacardiGuy]

Another thing, I assume you speak or are at least familiar with Japanese since you lived there for so long; there are educational groups that would pay you to live there and teach english.

 

[Chosen1]

actuayll i'm in the miltary now and i would say not to because the trip to meps was awful but if you want your family to appreciate you more join they ca't hate you if you're in the service that would make them seem like ****s btw i voted against bush and i'm still joined the service because it is my dream don't do it unless you are willing to have your rights taken away and be told what to do all the time and you are willing to die for your country