This is a very weak man

[MatureDJ]

https://www.reddit.com/r/HomeImprovement/comments/1kbpssv

Hi everyone,

I have recently (less than a week ago) experienced a very abrupt end to a relationship that I did not see coming at all. Very jarring and am in complete shock.

We lived together for a year in the place that I own - I’ve had it for three years. I recently DIY’d a kitchen remodel last month which was mostly designed by her (backsplash, cabinet colors, handles). The apartment is now pretty much empty except for my bed (which I’m replacing) and a few rugs she left behind (which I’m selling).

I’ve been staying at my brother’s place because I have so much anxiety and remorse about being inside the condo. And that’s frustrating because it’s mine - I own it and it is a very proud achievement of mine to be able to do in a city that’s incredibly unaffordable.

I wanted recommendations for what I can do while the apartment is pretty much empty to give it a new feel and not feel like I’m in the same place where so much happiness drastically ended. I painted it just last year before she moved in.

Was considering replacing the ****ty LVP flooring as it was on my list later this year. Beyond that, I am at a loss. I want to be in my home but I don’t want it to feel like it did up to last week.

For those who were or are in a similar situation, what did you do?

my opinion: Time to spin more plates.

 

[SW15]

It's unfortunate that he can't sell the place due to the current real estate market.

The guy can't stay at his brother's place forever. He will need to go back to his owned condo.

He could do some cosmetic things in the condo to try to lessen the memories of his ex-girlfriend. Ultimately, those are surface level things.

He has more of a seduction mindset problem then than a home remodeling problem.

He needs to properly process his bad feelings about how his girlfriend relationship ended. Then, he needs to start meeting some new women.

While he's processing his feelings, it would be good for him to be lifting weights. If he's involved in sport, he should keep participating in that spot as a supplement to his weight lifting.

This is the kind of guy who would need content from guys like Rollo, Fresh & Fit, and Richard Cooper to help with mindset. He likely needs help with his tactics too.

 

[RickTheToad]

It's unfortunate that he can't sell the place due to the current real estate market.

The guy can't stay at his brother's place forever. He will need to go back to his owned condo.

He could do some cosmetic things in the condo to try to lessen the memories of his ex-girlfriend. Ultimately, those are surface level things.

He has more of a seduction mindset problem then than a home remodeling problem.

He needs to properly process his bad feelings about how his girlfriend relationship ended. Then, he needs to start meeting some new women.

While he's processing his feelings, it would be good for him to be lifting weights. If he's involved in sport, he should keep participating in that spot as a supplement to his weight lifting.

This is the kind of guy who would need content from guys like Rollo, Fresh & Fit, and Richard Cooper to help with mindset. He likely needs help with his tactics too.

He needs to get back into the game and find a new girl to get his mind off of his old girl. It happens, and it sucks, but life goes on. He's not weak, he prob. doesn't have much experience with females. After all, it's San Diego.

 

[SW15]

He needs to get back into the game and find a new girl to get his mind off of his old girl. It happens, and it sucks, but life goes on. He's not weak, he prob. doesn't have much experience with females.

I read the thread. It sounded like some sort of long term, unmarried cohabitation scenario without children. They did international travel together.

It sounds like a 5+ year relationship that ended with a discovery that she was having sex with other men. I could imagine him a guy who was a typical mid-tier beta male who struggled in high school and college (if he attended) to get women. Then, he got into some 5+ year relationship (maybe even closer to 10 years) with this woman. This seems like a 30 something like who was incel/borderline incel earlier in life, stumbled into an LTR, and then had his mid tier looking long term girlfriend getting smashed by top tier guys from the beach in San Diego.

He mentioned having a sister too. If she lives in San Diego as well, she could be arranging dates for him with her social connections.

He is lucky that they didn't have kids together. It's good that they were cohabiting at his place. She seemed to be happy to move out quickly. This situation could have been a lot worse.

He would be better off posting in seduction oriented forums on the internet than home remodeling/decoration ones.

 

[TnStud]

Redecorate into a dope Bach pad and then sleep with 10 new women and you’ll soon forget all that sentimental bs

 

[BaronOfHair]

I have recently (less than a week ago) experienced a very abrupt end to a relationship that I did not see coming at all...

Yeah, he did. Like a woman who rationalizes her husband frequently coming home smelling of another woman's perfume + Being more eager to clean the gutters than he is to have sex with her, he just chose to ignore then

Assertions like this are, 9 times out of 10, no less absurd than someone claiming "I had no idea I was going to be fired"

 

[MatureDJ]

He needs to get back into the game and find a new girl to get his mind off of his old girl. It happens, and it sucks, but life goes on. He's not weak, he prob. doesn't have much experience with females. After all, it's San Diego.

San Diego should be named "Sans Dames" - all those Navy guys make it one of the worst sausage fests in the non-Muslim world.

 

[MatureDJ]

I read the thread. It sounded like some sort of long term, unmarried cohabitation scenario without children. They did international travel together.

It sounds like a 5+ year relationship that ended with a discovery that she was having sex with other men. I could imagine him a guy who was a typical mid-tier beta male who struggled in high school and college (if he attended) to get women. Then, he got into some 5+ year relationship (maybe even closer to 10 years) with this woman. This seems like a 30 something like who was incel/borderline incel earlier in life, stumbled into an LTR, and then had his mid tier looking long term girlfriend getting smashed by top tier guys from the beach in San Diego.

He mentioned having a sister too. If she lives in San Diego as well, she could be arranging dates for him with her social connections.

He is lucky that they didn't have kids together. It's good that they were cohabiting at his place. She seemed to be happy to move out quickly. This situation could have been a lot worse.

He would be better off posting in seduction oriented forums on the internet than home remodeling/decoration ones.

I think you have nailed it. Before my PassportBro days, it seemed like every relationship I had gotten into was by "stumbling into it" as a BorderlineCel, and once it was OVER, it was back to the dark, lean times . (I had also lived in SoCal for a year or so in my early days, and I can remember the overwhelming mogging there was at any nightspot - I could have taken a picture there and have it now posted at the IncelWiki for the Mogging entry.)