This is a silly problem to have..

[backbreaker]

but it is a problem nevertheless.


i cannot hire an assistant, without her wanting to **** me. I mean at some point the novolty of having someone be attracted to you and it becomes a problem

I ****ed up about 8 months ago and hired a friend to run errands for me and do things like check email... yeah she got pissed over some bs.

then i hired another woman around my age, to do very easy email answering, general customer service things... 2 months and i get an email in my inbox.

okay so now i get smart and last month i hire an older woman.. she's about 45 years old, she's MARRIED. i am in no, way shape or form attracted to this woman. i've let on no signs whatsoever that I like this woman becuase I don't. she's nice and sweet but she's supposed to be she ****ing works for me.

Unlike the last two this one will work her ****ing ass off. GREAT employee. GREAT.

she knows i am constantly on skpye and we shoot the **** from time to time.. i'm not all professional. we both like horses, we takl about horse racing from time to time. So she creeps in how much of a jerk her husband is being. i'm like okay that's great ttyl!

now she is asking me do i like cougars and asking me what type of women do i find attractive. god damnit. she's freaking married!

 

[Kailex]

Hire a man next time.
Too bad I'm not unemployed and in CA.

 

[2crudedudes]

Del Mar, right in my neck of woods. Sorta. What sort of assistin are you lookin for?

 

[backbreaker]

Del Mar, right in my neck of woods. Sorta. What sort of assistin are you lookin for?

man i moved about a half a year ago I need to update that.. need to change my b day too i'm damn near 27. I'm in Monrovia now.

 

[squirrels]

Ahh, the consequences of being attractive.

Shut it off right there. When she starts asking you what kind of woman you like, start talking about your wife, all the awesome things she does, what you like about her, etc. Redirect any inquiries that way...eventually she'll take the hint. Maybe even introduce her to your wife...have your wife stop by the office. It's harder to compete with someone you've met than it is a faceless spouse.

Give her the impression that even if by some miracle she DID get you into bed, you'd be imagining it's your wife.

I give this advice based on how I've seen girls with GOOD husbands/boyfriends ward off advances, mine and other people's. When she says, "I can't, I have a man", I just laugh it off. If she's talking about how much fun she has with her man, and every time I ask her something she has another wonderful story about him, I figure, "She's way too into him to be worth the effort. Good for him!"

 

[synergy1]

yeah man, this is the biggest challenge i foresee as being owner and having to hire girls to work for us. We already have one working with us on preparing some projects and I already get that vibe. Its a dangerous game. All a girl needs to do is cry wolf, and a great deal of your companies reputation can go down the ****ter. its especially bad in my position since I am going to be working with the university.

That said, its lame our system functions like this. People are constantly walking on egg shells because of constant fear that someone else is out to get them.

There could be nothing worse than if this silly problem turns into a big problem. you clearly understand whats at stake, so best of luck to ya!