This Is A Bit Wierd...

[Jmac]

I feel as if Ive lost my touch. Not saying I was a Don Juan (yet) but last summer I was on a ROLL. It was the summer before freshman year of college, felt free, relaxed, I had a job, & my confidence level had reached an all time high.

My swag was off the chart id say. Me and my friends would go to the city and just mess around, talk to hot older women. I would approach women effortlessly, everything was great and fun. I felt untouchable.

Then idk what happened, first few weeks of college I hooked up with a few girls but after that I went through a stressful point in my life and I wasn't myself.

I became very Self Conscious and everybody noticed. I wouldn't talk as much, was ALOT less outgoing, more uptight and it was just not good.

Now im entering my Sophomore Year of college and I haven't fully recovered from this. Like I find it more difficult to communicate with good looking women.

Whats Going On?!?

 

[WC2]

Well let's see.. you went from having a bunch of friends & having familiar surroundings to having practically no friends and uncomfortable surroundings.

It's only natural that we perform well in settings that are comfortable and fulfilling to us.

I remember my Freshman yr of college wasn't so hot.. I had maybe 4-5 friends I hung out with and maybe hooked up with a few girls that year.

But I went into Sophmore year with an entirely new outlook.. meet anyone and say 'yes' to everything. Want to go here? Yes. Want to play __ with __? Yes. Ever see Yes man?

Ultimately this led me down many roads and I met some of my greatest friends for life.

Once I became comfortable with my surroundings, all bets were off.

I tore it that mofo up.

So I don't necessarily think you're in a slump. I think you're just a little self conscious that you're starting to become 'that guy' who doesn't really have a huge core of friends and doesn't get a lot of women.

No worries, it's still early. Build a good core of friends (easier said than done), start introducing yourself to more women, and ultimately find out who you really are.

Not giving a sh!t about what people think plays a huge role in this.

College is a new era.. in high school everyone who was insecure were part of the 'popular crew'. Now that everyone is growing up, those who are most secure with themselves and don't care as much tend to branch out the most.

 

[Jmac]

Well let's see.. you went from having a bunch of friends & having familiar surroundings to having practically no friends and uncomfortable surroundings.

It's only natural that we perform well in settings that are comfortable and fulfilling to us.

I remember my Freshman yr of college wasn't so hot.. I had maybe 4-5 friends I hung out with and maybe hooked up with a few girls that year.

But I went into Sophmore year with an entirely new outlook.. meet anyone and say 'yes' to everything. Want to go here? Yes. Want to play __ with __? Yes. Ever see Yes man?

Ultimately this led me down many roads and I met some of my greatest friends for life.

Once I became comfortable with my surroundings, all bets were off.

I tore it that mofo up.

So I don't necessarily think you're in a slump. I think you're just a little self conscious that you're starting to become 'that guy' who doesn't really have a huge core of friends and doesn't get a lot of women.

No worries, it's still early. Build a good core of friends (easier said than done), start introducing yourself to more women, and ultimately find out who you really are.

Not giving a sh!t about what people think plays a huge role in this.

College is a new era.. in high school everyone who was insecure were part of the 'popular crew'. Now that everyone is growing up, those who are most secure with themselves and don't care as much tend to branch out the most.

The thing was.. I was VERY popular (not to brag) even after the first day I made friends with SO many ppl. In fact funny story, first night of college ever, we threw a party in my dorm alot of ppl were there (hot girls everything) but I got so drunk I blacked out and pissed on my RAs desk. From that day Everybody knew me lol. And ppl were saying things like "wow you got balls to do that, I gotta party with you". So friends weren't a prob at all lol.

Thing is as college progressed so many things stressed me out, I even broke out and my social life suffered, along with my confidence. I really want to regain all of this. I feel im 70% back.

 

[JohnChops]

Well let's see.. you went from having a bunch of friends & having familiar surroundings to having practically no friends and uncomfortable surroundings.

It's only natural that we perform well in settings that are comfortable and fulfilling to us.

I remember my Freshman yr of college wasn't so hot.. I had maybe 4-5 friends I hung out with and maybe hooked up with a few girls that year.

But I went into Sophmore year with an entirely new outlook.. meet anyone and say 'yes' to everything. Want to go here? Yes. Want to play __ with __? Yes. Ever see Yes man?

Ultimately this led me down many roads and I met some of my greatest friends for life.

Once I became comfortable with my surroundings, all bets were off.

I tore it that mofo up.

So I don't necessarily think you're in a slump. I think you're just a little self conscious that you're starting to become 'that guy' who doesn't really have a huge core of friends and doesn't get a lot of women.

No worries, it's still early. Build a good core of friends (easier said than done), start introducing yourself to more women, and ultimately find out who you really are.

Not giving a sh!t about what people think plays a huge role in this.

College is a new era.. in high school everyone who was insecure were part of the 'popular crew'. Now that everyone is growing up, those who are most secure with themselves and don't care as much tend to branch out the most.

This is so true. My freshman year of college I was a WRECK! I was to a point where it seemed like a good idea to lock myself in the library and just shun the world. I didnt even feel like myself, didnt talk to anyone etc. Now im going into sophomore year with this exact attitude. And I am a lot happier than I was freshman year anyway. So this advice is the best, say yes to everything that is asked and chat up EVERYONE!