There is this girl at my college that I like. She's good looking, smart, and overall, nice. Anyways, I like this girl that I met her about 8 months back. Of course I haven't told her that I liked her because that would be a terrible mistake. Instead, I do other things like tease her and basically give her a hard time. Often times she tells me I'm "mean", but I laugh and continue to tease her. She seems to like it. Usually everytime I begin to bust on her she gets red and laughs and it seems like things are going pretty good. But, recently after our college break, I saw her and she was with a couple of friends. After I teased her for a little while, she stood right next to me and introduced me to some of her friends. I'm quite confident things went pretty well with me and her friends as they got a good laugh out of me teasing her. But shortly after she asked me, "Do you have a class?", I said "Yeah, I have a class in a few minutes" then she replied " WELL, YOU'D BETTER GET GOING!!!" so I looked at her and said "are you telling me what to do?!" and I pushed her *it was supposed to be a fun and friendly push*....I suppose she wasn't able to predict that I'd push her, so she said "he didn't just push me!!" I said, "SO what are you going to do about it?" she said "nothing" I laughed *to show her that I was only playin' around*and said "that's what I thought"....so, I patted her on the shoulder and said "well I'll see you around" and I left *holding the eye contact*. But here comes the problem, ever since I pushed her she seems to be "ignoring" me. My guess is that she is testing me to see how "desperate" I am for her. Of course, I haven't fallen for it though, I have been ignoring her back just like she is doing to me. My questions are: Is this a test? and am I going about things the right way to make her feel "attraction". I for darn sure don't want to become one of her "girlfriend" guy friends. I want more than that. The only reason why I pushed her is to let her know that she can't walk all over me, and not to be domineering in any way. Either she thinks I'm some bastard and wants me away (I can live with that, there are plenty of women) or she is testing me, which one is it?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
brenbaus
Senior Don Juan
seems like she is testing you, keep ignoring her back and shell come running, if not, you have other options
SlyD4rK
Don Juan
she is testing you....i wen tthrough almost the EXACT same thing....but it turned out that she didnt feel like she was good enough for me...HA...
Roly
Senior Don Juan
Dude? How old are you bro? Man you're at freakin college and this is the time of your life where you shouldn't even give a damn about one particular girl. I'm sure there are TONS of women where you are from. Go out, experiment, learn, date, and enjoy the ladies man.
I can relate to your situation though, the last time I was really hung up to this one chick when I was 16 yrs old. God, I use to be so conscious when I was around her. " Did I do anything wrong"?
" Does she like me?" " Man ! I screwed up, I'm totally in the friends zone". " I know ! I won't call her for a while ! then she'll start liking me again !" :::Slaps himself, god, that was a total complete waste of mental energy::: Lesson learned for me.
One thing I got to point out, is no chick will ever find a desperate dude attractive. Trust me chicks are 10 times as good in reading a dude's bodylanguage and mentality. So if your ass is desperate for a freakin relationship, I personally suggest you get ur desperate ass off the game for a while and work on yourself. Find a hobby, meditate, read enlightening books and focus on your dreams. Then when you're at peace with yourself, let the fun begins. : - )
I can relate to your situation though, the last time I was really hung up to this one chick when I was 16 yrs old. God, I use to be so conscious when I was around her. " Did I do anything wrong"?
" Does she like me?" " Man ! I screwed up, I'm totally in the friends zone". " I know ! I won't call her for a while ! then she'll start liking me again !" :::Slaps himself, god, that was a total complete waste of mental energy::: Lesson learned for me.
One thing I got to point out, is no chick will ever find a desperate dude attractive. Trust me chicks are 10 times as good in reading a dude's bodylanguage and mentality. So if your ass is desperate for a freakin relationship, I personally suggest you get ur desperate ass off the game for a while and work on yourself. Find a hobby, meditate, read enlightening books and focus on your dreams. Then when you're at peace with yourself, let the fun begins. : - )
Roly: If you reread my post I said "there are more women"...and if you also look again, I said I'm not desperate "I'm ignoring her back"...trust me, I know women don't like men who are always all over them....and believe me....I give this chick plenty of room.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.