"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Bonafide

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Ok so im back again FELLERS. Yeah well there is this girl that goes to my school... I kind of really liked her from the first time I saw her but after that one time I saw her I didnt see her again up until now... (and thats atleast a month ago)....one of my boys tried talking to her but she said she didnt speak english (my school is bi-lingual) but yeah ill get to the point

She was in class with me... and she was in a group of three... me and my bud are just sitting talking and stuff and I glimpse over at them...they are all three sitting and talking (in their language) and singing some song in their language and I look at her and she gives me a little smile...I also made eye contact with her friend and she gave me like a real "I like u" smile...I look away and just sort of watch her out of the corner of my eye a bit... I don't wanna give her too much attention because shes a model and im pretty sure shes a bit full of herself, but anyway

the next day I say u know what im just going to try and talk 2 her...but I stall again i dont know why, but this time she sits right in front of me and my boy rather than to the left... and shes sitting with a friend talking again but shes almost at an angle and it seems like shes constantly looking at me from the corner of her eye.. either that or shes just staring out the window at nothing... because her friend is to her right, im behind her to the left, and she would just constantly look to her left for like a good 6 seconds, and I'd look at her and it seemed as if she was just stalking me out of the corner of her eye...or maybe shes just practicing her poses :crackup:

lol but yeah so I see her at dismissal and im walking down the sidewalk and shes walking up it... she was talking 2 a friend I guess and she saw me and then she began to walk my way with her head down... and as soon as she gets right to my side she lifts her head up again????? :crazy:



so yeah what should I do... do u guys think she might be attracted 2 me?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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It seems possible, it also seems possible she's a bit shy (putting her head down).

Only one way to find out isn't there?
 

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Yeah but I hate that... I always hear that lol I just dont want to get rejected... because I RARELY ask girls out in my school...I just dont want to have to carry getting rejected by a female in my own school... when I really dont think that any of em are up to my level, its just that this one girl... something about her...and if she rejects me and anyone hears about it...there goes my "rep"...the kid who THOUGHT he was too good for everybody got rejected...
 

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Small school eh? Been there.

The only real way around it is to ask one of her friends if she likes you. However, that comes with the risk of looking scared, but who knows she may think it's cute.

But really, there's nothing wrong with rejection. The first time I asked a girl on a date I was scared pale that it would be the end of my life if she turned me down. Well, she did... and the miraculous thing is that it didn't bother me at all, it was just the word "no". It didn't make me any less of a cool guy, and no one talked about it or made fun of me. In a way it was relieving as I realized this thing I had been scared of for so long wasn't a big deal in the slightest.

And your "rep"? In all respect dude F*ck your rep. What if it does work out? Five years from now do you really want to look back and think about how you may have missed out on something great all because you were protecting your rep? Whether you like it or not, once you're out of highschool that rep you worked so hard for is worthless, everyone gets put back on the same level.

EDIT: I guess what I'm really saying is don't put yourself in a position where you'll always wonder "What If?"
 

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Thanks bro feel alot more confident about the whole thing right now...who gives a **** if I get denied... you only live once eh?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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That's right. I only wish someone had told me that years ago.
 
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