so there is this girl. im goin on a church youth trip tonight nad i want to hit it off with her. we held hands and kissed once but i wanted to know if u guys got any tips or tricks i can use. im not the best lookin guy thats goin to be there and she is one of the "popular" ppl. i REALLY cant screw up. please help
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
this girl
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
OneEyedJack
Don Juan
One-itis is going to kill you.
Be fun, be interesting, be positive, no matter what happens.
And here is the most difficult thing for you to understand : There are other wonderful girls; there are more fish in the sea. And that you CAN screw it up and it doesn't matter.
Be fun, be interesting, be positive, no matter what happens.
And here is the most difficult thing for you to understand : There are other wonderful girls; there are more fish in the sea. And that you CAN screw it up and it doesn't matter.
Stop putting her on a pedastool. As long as you are "not the best looking guy in the world" and she is "one of the popular people" you will always be her "underling"--a SERVANT to her and her whims.
This is going to make you try to do "nice" things to "win" her over. You'll try to be a gentleman and all that mumbo jumbo, and what you are going to find is that she is going to ditch you for a guy who treats her like CRAP.
So you need to remove the thinking that she is somehow better than you. Why? Why is she so much better than you? Because she has more people around her than you? That's crap! You are probably WORLDs better than HER because you probably have a better personality! You are the prize! She should only be so LUCKY, read again, LUCKY, read it again, L-U-C-K-Y! to have you in her life!
That's the attitude you need to approach her with. And you need to believe it too. She's not some goddess. She's not something special. She's a girl and girls are a dime a dozen! You've really got to internalize this attitude because it's the only way you are EVER going to have a shot with her.
Then when you get that attitude down, you'll want to start treating her like it! Don't be afraid to buck her! Don't be afraid to make her mad at you. In fact, you WANT her to be mad at you, because that's what's going to build attraction to you. I don't advice you to be rude or ignorant or say something mean to her. I just suggest you be arrogant with her and treat her like she's something less than you.
An example would be you are going on a trip with her. I'd cut right in front of her in line at the restaraunt you go to as if it were nothing. When she says something, just turn around and say "Excuse me, do I know you?" with a straight face...hold it for a few seconds, then SMILE and turn around. She'll undoubtedly try again and then you say, playfully, "Jeez! What now? i'm tryin ta order hur!" (remember PLAYFULLY) and keep busting on her like that until she is "hooked".
YOU call the shots. YOU tell HER what she should THINK. You are the prize, and she is just a mere girl. She's an icky, dirty girl with cooties! lol Seriously, remember how you treated girls when you were a kid? Well that's how they want to be treated now. They want you to lead them, tell them what you are going to do, they want you to throw dirt on them, etc. She's no different now then she was then. NO DIFFERENT. So don't treat her different because she looks good!
And that, is a crash course in how to treat a girl you like. I'd really suggest ready more stuff here and I HIGHLY HIGHLY HIGHLY recommend you read the Book of Pook:
http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/Downloads/The Book of Pook.pdf
This is going to make you try to do "nice" things to "win" her over. You'll try to be a gentleman and all that mumbo jumbo, and what you are going to find is that she is going to ditch you for a guy who treats her like CRAP.
So you need to remove the thinking that she is somehow better than you. Why? Why is she so much better than you? Because she has more people around her than you? That's crap! You are probably WORLDs better than HER because you probably have a better personality! You are the prize! She should only be so LUCKY, read again, LUCKY, read it again, L-U-C-K-Y! to have you in her life!
That's the attitude you need to approach her with. And you need to believe it too. She's not some goddess. She's not something special. She's a girl and girls are a dime a dozen! You've really got to internalize this attitude because it's the only way you are EVER going to have a shot with her.
Then when you get that attitude down, you'll want to start treating her like it! Don't be afraid to buck her! Don't be afraid to make her mad at you. In fact, you WANT her to be mad at you, because that's what's going to build attraction to you. I don't advice you to be rude or ignorant or say something mean to her. I just suggest you be arrogant with her and treat her like she's something less than you.
An example would be you are going on a trip with her. I'd cut right in front of her in line at the restaraunt you go to as if it were nothing. When she says something, just turn around and say "Excuse me, do I know you?" with a straight face...hold it for a few seconds, then SMILE and turn around. She'll undoubtedly try again and then you say, playfully, "Jeez! What now? i'm tryin ta order hur!" (remember PLAYFULLY) and keep busting on her like that until she is "hooked".
YOU call the shots. YOU tell HER what she should THINK. You are the prize, and she is just a mere girl. She's an icky, dirty girl with cooties! lol Seriously, remember how you treated girls when you were a kid? Well that's how they want to be treated now. They want you to lead them, tell them what you are going to do, they want you to throw dirt on them, etc. She's no different now then she was then. NO DIFFERENT. So don't treat her different because she looks good!
And that, is a crash course in how to treat a girl you like. I'd really suggest ready more stuff here and I HIGHLY HIGHLY HIGHLY recommend you read the Book of Pook:
http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/Downloads/The Book of Pook.pdf
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.